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Or am I just a piece of work in need of a shrink to resolve some issues unknown to me? It can't be fair to slowly start checking out right after she really opens up to me.
Last edited by Philosophizer; 08-07-2014 at 06:43 PM..
No, I don't get bored. It takes a long time to get to know someone, as in years. That's a lot of time to spend together having interesting conversations and doing things together that bond you. I love that process. The good part starts after you've gotten to know each other, and discover that you like what you've found. That's when true intimacy starts, because you both know you are accepted for the real you.
In your case, it sounds like you just like the excitement of the chase. The day-to-day reality of a relationship is not thrilling enough to keep you interested. You may be an excitement junkie. Or perhaps you are not ready to deal with the not-so-fun parts of being in a close relationship, like accepting their flaws, accepting a certain amount of boredom and routine, accepting disappointments, etc.
How long are you spending getting to know these women? If it's anything less than a year, I doubt you really know them.
Or am I just a piece of work in need of a shrink to resolve some issues unknown to me? It can't be fair to slowly start checking out right after she really opens up to me.
Yeah, it's really not.
Are you opening up to her? Do you feel ok telling her your deepest secrets? Crying in front of her?
No, I don't get bored. It takes a long time to get to know someone, as in years. That's a lot of time to spend together having interesting conversations and doing things together that bond you. I love that process. The good part starts after you've gotten to know each other, and discover that you like what you've found. That's when true intimacy starts, because you both know you are accepted for the real you.
In your case, it sounds like you just like the excitement of the chase. The day-to-day reality of a relationship is not thrilling enough to keep you interested. You may be an excitement junkie. Or perhaps you are not ready to deal with the not-so-fun parts of being in a close relationship, like accepting their flaws, accepting a certain amount of boredom and routine, accepting disappointments, etc.
How long are you spending getting to know these women? If it's anything less than a year, I doubt you really know them.
That's my thought. Possibly, he's bored with relationships and likes the new starts, rather than the tame phase.
For me, for now, I think the tame stages are better. Trust is built, the relationship is solid and official, and thus allows to be more comfortable with one another. True companionship.
For me it depends on who it is, and how attracted I am to them.
The last few guys I talked to after my recent crush didn't catch my attention at all hardly. Whenever I would talk to the guy I had liked a lot, I felt so happy and like nothing could crush my day at all. We always had something to talk about, and we always made each other laugh.
Or am I just a piece of work in need of a shrink to resolve some issues unknown to me? It can't be fair to slowly start checking out right after she really opens up to me.
I think we're all pretty sure a shrink wouldn't hurt you.
You like to conquer, you like the chase and the challenge, after you win you get bored. I had to work on a similar personality streak.
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Or am I just a piece of work in need of a shrink to resolve some issues unknown to me? It can't be fair to slowly start checking out right after she really opens up to me.
I know what you mean, the excitement kind of dies down. You have to find a way to keep it fresh
no one bores me. but when people show up with an empty bag at the friendship-- filling it up is going to get old.
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