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I joined a dating website and after a month, I met a woman last Sunday and we are looking forward for a second date this coming Friday but I find myself very anxious. There was an instant attraction between us and we both think that each other look better in person. We talked for over 2 hours. Both of us are extremely satisfied with our careers. She has been texting me many messages since. It is happening at a faster pace than I like. If I am just looking for a hook-up then this is a perfect opportunity but I am looking for a serious relationship. Last night I wasn’t able to sleep well trying to identify what make me feel anxious. I think I have identified a few things that she said during our first date that I might have overlooked at that time because of the excitement but now I may be bothered by them:
1. In her profile she states that she has a nice career, nice house, and a nice car.
2. We are both successful with our careers, but she kept repeating that her coworkers are jealous of her because of her talent and success.
3. She mentioned that she has lost some gal friends because she would be the center of attention all the time.
4. Her mom and sister and brother live in a different state. I thought she was mocking her 69 year-old mom, by repeating her mom’s pleading in our native language, for trying to setup a family reunion. She didn’t join her family because that wasn’t what she wanted to do.
What do you think? Am I being too cautious because I am divorced or you see real red flags? I feel that with her I may have to stay perfect or she will criticize me.
I joined a dating website and after a month, I met a woman last Sunday and we are looking forward for a second date this coming Friday but I find myself very anxious. There was an instant attraction between us and we both think that each other look better in person. We talked for over 2 hours. Both of us are extremely satisfied with our careers. She has been texting me many messages since. It is happening at a faster pace than I like. If I am just looking for a hook-up then this is a perfect opportunity but I am looking for a serious relationship. Last night I wasn’t able to sleep well trying to identify what make me feel anxious. I think I have identified a few things that she said during our first date that I might have overlooked at that time because of the excitement but now I may be bothered by them:
1. In her profile she states that she has a nice career, nice house, and a nice car.
2. We are both successful with our careers, but she kept repeating that her coworkers are jealous of her because of her talent and success.
3. She mentioned that she has lost some gal friends because she would be the center of attention all the time.
4. Her mom and sister and brother live in a different state. I thought she was mocking her 69 year-old mom, by repeating her mom’s pleading in our native language, for trying to setup a family reunion. She didn’t join her family because that wasn’t what she wanted to do.
What do you think? Am I being too cautious because am divorced or you see real red flags? I feel that with her I may have to stay perfect or she will criticize me.
Sounds to me like a bit of a narcissist, for sure.
I joined a dating website and after a month, I met a woman last Sunday and we are looking forward for a second date this coming Friday but I find myself very anxious. There was an instant attraction between us and we both think that each other look better in person. We talked for over 2 hours. Both of us are extremely satisfied with our careers. She has been texting me many messages since. It is happening at a faster pace than I like. If I am just looking for a hook-up then this is a perfect opportunity but I am looking for a serious relationship. Last night I wasn’t able to sleep well trying to identify what make me feel anxious. I think I have identified a few things that she said during our first date that I might have overlooked at that time because of the excitement but now I may be bothered by them:
1. In her profile she states that she has a nice career, nice house, and a nice car.
2. We are both successful with our careers, but she kept repeating that her coworkers are jealous of her because of her talent and success.
3. She mentioned that she has lost some gal friends because she would be the center of attention all the time.
4. Her mom and sister and brother live in a different state. I thought she was mocking her 69 year-old mom, by repeating her mom’s pleading in our native language, for trying to setup a family reunion. She didn’t join her family because that wasn’t what she wanted to do.
What do you think? Am I being too cautious because am divorced or you see real red flags? I feel that with her I may have to stay perfect or she will criticize me.
Well first off, a good first meeting is fine. Don't be overtaken by a 2 hour conversation with a stranger, they know nothing about you, you know nothing about them, I assume you have at least 30 years of life between the two of you. Conversation should flow nicely for at least the first two to three dates.
Go for it, date the woman, have some fun. I could be wrong, but maybe she is trying to show you that she doesn't need a man to take care of her. This is a big plus for me, because I want to take care of no woman again, we need to be a team.
I have no idea what any of the 4 points mean, they just sound like conversation. I tell people I meet for the first time that I have a big house and a nice career. Thats just what people talk about.
I joined a dating website and after a month, I met a woman last Sunday and we are looking forward for a second date this coming Friday but I find myself very anxious. There was an instant attraction between us and we both think that each other look better in person. We talked for over 2 hours. Both of us are extremely satisfied with our careers. She has been texting me many messages since. It is happening at a faster pace than I like. If I am just looking for a hook-up then this is a perfect opportunity but I am looking for a serious relationship. Last night I wasn’t able to sleep well trying to identify what make me feel anxious. I think I have identified a few things that she said during our first date that I might have overlooked at that time because of the excitement but now I may be bothered by them:
1. In her profile she states that she has a nice career, nice house, and a nice car.
2. We are both successful with our careers, but she kept repeating that her coworkers are jealous of her because of her talent and success.
3. She mentioned that she has lost some gal friends because she would be the center of attention all the time.
4. Her mom and sister and brother live in a different state. I thought she was mocking her 69 year-old mom, by repeating her mom’s pleading in our native language, for trying to setup a family reunion. She didn’t join her family because that wasn’t what she wanted to do.
What do you think? Am I being too cautious because am divorced or you see real red flags? I feel that with her I may have to stay perfect or she will criticize me.
I only see a man who is letting his anxiety rule his life.
Breathe man, just breathe.
Just continue getting to know her before you decide to make snap judgements about her ok? For all you know, she is really nervous too an just running on at the mouth.
Slow the pace down a bit, no need to be in such a rush rush hurry to do anything.
Whether or not she is "the one" will reveal itself to you in time. Just guard your heart until that time.
She seems very stuck on herself. It's good to be confident, but she's arrogant, and thinks girls hate on her, when in truth, she's a snob. Nobody wants to be around a snob that thinks they're perfect and others are all jealous, or wanting to get with them.
She's like a girl I know. She has no girl friends, because she states girls don't give her a chance because of how she looks. And that being attractive ruins her life because of that, and the fact men want her for sex-calling herself a heartthrob. And constantly bragging about being in Law School-that she got a C- in for failing an exam. lol She's sleeping with a man with a girlfriend, and talks about he needs to see what a catch she is, and how much better she is than his girlfriend who's fat, and stupid.
As many tell her, it's not her looks. her personality sucks. Which she didn't want to hear.
This makes a person look very horrible, and vain. Acting this way, it's no surprise they wouldn't have a high affinity.
People like this are either genuinely arrogant, or very insecure and trying to play up what can be seen as good qualities, which results in them bragging on themselves to hide it, and maybe convince themselves of their self-worth.
Your girl sounds like the girl I know. And yeah, in addition to arrogant, she does sound selfish.
Last edited by HappyRain; 08-12-2014 at 09:53 AM..
1. In her profile she states that she has a nice career, nice house, and a nice car.
2. We are both successful with our careers, but she kept repeating that her coworkers are jealous of her because of her talent and success.
3. She mentioned that she has lost some gal friends because she would be the center of attention all the time.
4. Her mom and sister and brother live in a different state. I thought she was mocking her 69 year-old mom, by repeating her mom’s pleading in our native language, for trying to setup a family reunion. She didn’t join her family because that wasn’t what she wanted to do.
So basically you're interested in a woman who is:
1. Hung up on material things,
2. Trying to present herself as so wonderful that the only reason people don't like her is because they are just jealous,
3. In denial about the real reasons people don't like her, which probably have more to do with either
a colossal ego or
gross insecurity that results in constant attention-whoring
and
4. Nasty enough to mock her own mother for wanting to do something nice.
Maybe I'm seeing this the wrong way, but from many conversations I've had with other men, if a woman was talking like this I wouldn't think she was inflating herself, I would think she is trying to stand out from the pack of freeloading women who just want a man to take care of them. Especially on a first date.
Now, if after another date or two she is still talking about how great she is, then I'd see that as a bit pig headed and leave.
Maybe I'm seeing this the wrong way, but from many conversations I've had with other men, if a woman was talking like this I wouldn't think she was inflating herself, I would think she is trying to stand out from the pack of freeloading women who just want a man to take care of them. Especially on a first date.
Now, if after another date or two she is still talking about how great she is, then I'd see that as a bit pig headed and leave.
Take it from someone who used to be that woman: It doesn't get better until she recognizes her own problem.
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