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It seems like all people are looking for is a hot piece of meat. Now I'm definitely not what one would describe as hot, but I make a very detailed, informative profile describing my interests, hobbies, etc. and regularly send other users nice messages, as simple as "Hi how are you?" and while each person views my profile, they never write a response. Yet people deemed "hot" by conventional standards but having the content of their profile state "Uhhh..dont kno what 2 say here just ask i gess" get loads of people interested in them.
If that's how it is, why not just get rid of the description field altogether and just have people's pictures as their entire profile? As a person with crippling social anxiety, I actually believe I'd have better luck going out in public and looking for someone. Now that's saying something. Thoughts?
Me personally, I'd prefer not to have to go into detail about myself or have to read excessive details about him. I need to know if I'm attracted to him, if he's attracted to me, and then we can meet in person and go from there.
Location: WNY (NOT NYC for the geographically challenged)
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I can see that, but I like to at least get to know a little about someone before meeting them. That way I have an idea of how they might be, personality-wise.
I don't do OLD, but from reading posts here, success if very rare, of course I don't know if the people who are unsuccessful, are just aiming way too high, and have unrealistic dreams. I would use it if I lived in a very small town, or if I worked too much, with career and kids. Since I don't see either of those happening soon, I hope to miss out on the whole experience.
Me personally, I'd prefer not to have to go into detail about myself or have to read excessive details about him. I need to know if I'm attracted to him, if he's attracted to me, and then we can meet in person and go from there.
How do you determine whether you're attracted to someone based on an online profile? You can determine whether you find their photos attractive, but that's different than being attracted to someone.
Location: WNY (NOT NYC for the geographically challenged)
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Originally Posted by CapsChick
How do you determine whether you're attracted to someone based on an online profile? You can determine whether you find their photos attractive, but that's different than being attracted to someone.
Yes, you can have really nice looking pictures but be a conceited prick in person. I've seen it happen enough times.
It seems like all people are looking for is a hot piece of meat. Now I'm definitely not what one would describe as hot, but I make a very detailed, informative profile describing my interests, hobbies, etc. and regularly send other users nice messages, as simple as "Hi how are you?" and while each person views my profile, they never write a response. Yet people deemed "hot" by conventional standards but having the content of their profile state "Uhhh..dont kno what 2 say here just ask i gess" get loads of people interested in them.
Of the serious relationships in my adult life...actually, all of them started online. These were/are long-term, multi-year relationships with thoughtful, intelligent, enjoyable people. It's not happening because I'm hot (average looks, short, overweight).
I know some people just have bad luck with the medium, but that's not my experience.
Location: WNY (NOT NYC for the geographically challenged)
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I guess I just want to know if it's true that people really value how someone looks more than their personality, character, etc. to the point where they'd totally ignore someone based on their picture.
I guess I just want to know if it's true that people really value how someone looks more than their personality, character, etc. to the point where they'd totally ignore someone based on their picture.
Only the shallow ones, and you don't want them, anyway!
Ya know, I ended up taking the bus downtown this morning, and -of course- the one crazy old dude starts talking to me, lol.. Anyway, he eventually starts telling me about how he is on all these dating sites, trying to meet woman and I'm like thinking 'oh my God, these poor women!' It was pretty funny and all, but that just solidified yet one more of ohhh sooo many reasons why I avoid online dating altogether.. And carry a rape whistle lmao.. Please be careful out there you guys.
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