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in Pa. the "defendant can do nothing for 2 years(refuse to sign). then the game starts after that. delayed hearings, doctors notes, etc... anyone that gets through the process with their sanity intact has got it made. fortunately i had my new wife going through it with me for about 3 1/2 years. plus lots of family including my daughter.
glad it worked out for you too. another year and a half of alimony and i'm completely done.
Surprised you had to pay alimony. It's become a rare thing in NJ- judges are telling wives to get a job.
person 1: husband fought it and it took 4 months
person 2: husband fought it and it took 3 months
person 3: husband is fighting it and and her lawyer says it will take about 3 months
person 4: neither fought it and it took 3 months
give or take a couple weeks or days of course.
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Before someone says "omg! that's proof that most women are b*tches! and the men are just begging for them to stay and have a heart!"
person 1: she found out her husband had been molesting her daughter
person 2: they are both serial marry-and-divorcers
person 3: he is an alcoholic and she has been trying with him and doing everything so he can sit around and "deal with his issues" (aka drink) for over 3 years
person 4: she cheated and they mutually decided to divorce
oh and if it makes any difference, all of the people were in IL except person 4 was in IA. Couples 1, 2, and 3 have at least one child together.
Mine is still not official, will take 7 months. Anachronistic state of Louisiana requires a waiting period of 6 mandatory months (without children, with children it would have been 12 MONTHS!) before the motion to finalize can be accepted. So waiting to February for me until then. The initial filing occurred about 20 odd days after the separation.
It's ridiculous, some states you can divorce in as little time as it'll take the court to process the paper. Not that I'm marrying again (and if so only with a prenup, I've already had a woman I was dating about-face once the prenup was mentioned, I'm so happy about sticking to that discriminator, it's doing great weeding out the entitled and standard-of-living looking ones ) so I don't really care about the waiting period.
The initial motion filing effectively ceased the community property portion of the marriage, which means our economic lives have been deemed "single" since August. That and a post-nup was accomplished to take care of what would have been a separate hearing for the marital division of property (another ding on Louisiana...community property state), and I've been pretty much single since August. But it would be nice to get that piece of paper dissolved already and put it behind me.
I don't know what the law was in the state I received my divorce (NY) but it took 7 years exactly to the day from the time I left my spouse to the day I received my decree.
But then it was contested. [/quote]
Yes, I agree, that's more like it in NY. I filed for mine 13 months ago, we met with both lawyers in March, went to court in May, case was adjourned till September, then October, then yesterday I found out we are not going. It has been postponed till after New Years.
A friend of mine - it took her six years and cost $80,000.
Filed for legal separation in March 2009. (At the time you couldn't file for divorce unless you were legally separated for a year). Separation was finalized in April 2010 and we then filed for divorce. Received notice that we were divorced in December 2010. Irony of this all is it was uncontested and the No Fault Divorce Law was not passed until August 2010. I wonder how much quicker it would have been had we had that option or if we waited.
Here's one strange thing though. I have no physical proof I am divorced. My ex filed the papers in his county and told me by phone that he received an email stating the divorce was finalized. He was married the following year, so I presume it is legit, but I have no paperwork that states anything. I was able to look up the docket number online, but will have to go about getting proof.
I was recently told that a divorce in Missouri can take as little as 45-60 days if it is uncontested and uncomplicated. I was really shocked, I thought it took months and months for a divorce to happen, regardless of circumstances.
Well mine was neither uncontested or uncomplicated. I left in Aug. of 2008, and we were divorced I believe April of 2009. Of course as soon as the divorce was final and I thought I was finally done with court, he dragged me into a child custody battle.
We filed the motion to have it hastened, which thankfully the judge granted. We turned the paperwork in on a Thursday, and we're told the judge would be in on Monday if we wanted to see them. 20 minutes later we were done and finalized..
Uncontested, no kids, us both working together to get it over with, small Midwestern town with not much else going on..
My ex and I had been separated for four years (and married for 44) when I finally filed this past January. I go to court this Friday (10/19) for the signing of the decree. He contested it and threw up roadblocks at every opportunity and caused me to have to spend almost $25,000 to finally make it happen but he spent far more trying to stop it. It wasn't that he wanted me back as much as he just didn't want to lose control over me and give up what he considered to be "his money." Some part of the delay was the availability of the attorneys. When the first court date was set, opposing counsel went on vacation so it delayed that for two months as it was the first date when both attorneys could be available. It has been contentious, expensive and totally un-necessary but that's the nature of divorce.
Filed for legal separation in March 2009. (At the time you couldn't file for divorce unless you were legally separated for a year). Separation was finalized in April 2010 and we then filed for divorce. Received notice that we were divorced in December 2010. Irony of this all is it was uncontested and the No Fault Divorce Law was not passed until August 2010. I wonder how much quicker it would have been had we had that option or if we waited.
Here's one strange thing though. I have no physical proof I am divorced. My ex filed the papers in his county and told me by phone that he received an email stating the divorce was finalized. He was married the following year, so I presume it is legit, but I have no paperwork that states anything. I was able to look up the docket number online, but will have to go about getting proof.
I'm pretty sure you can contact the county clerk or registrar in the county where you were divorced and get a certified copy of the divorce decree. That's what I will have to do. I also need a certified copy of my marriage license from 44.5 years ago to take to the Social Security Administration (with the decree) to claim half of my ex's SS benefits.
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) so I don't really care about the waiting period. 
already 13 months
