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We judge people on a daily basis. I'm not talking about PRE judging people. I mean judging based on their actions.
I have heard this before from a previous love interest that I scrutinize and judge people. I am not perfect, but I don't think it takes much for someone to determine if someone is a cheater or a toxic person.
When selecting a partner I do look at their actions, how they handle themselves, their behavior, and the company they keep.
Do you judge? If so, what do you judge on? Based on your own moral code? If you don't, then tell me why also?
yes i do judge people on their actions, and their character, which is why i rarely go on first impressions of anyone. and yes i do go by my own moral code when dealing with people and how i perceive them, what else would i go on? someone elses moral code? should i base what i think about people on what say obama might think about them? sorry that takes know obama to know what he might think, and then it gets ridiculous trying to figure what what someone else thinks or might think.
Depends on your reason for judging. Are you doing it out of fear? Insecurity? Arrogance? Ignorance? Protection?
I do judge other's based on personality and their actions, only to see if we would be a good match for a potential relationship or a potential friendship. Not all people get along, and personalities do tend to clash. Some people could be boring, lame, overwhelming, annoying or whatever the case may be if they are not compatible. Also you need to protect yourself and not get mixed in with the wrong crowd of people, but this can get complicated if feelings get involved. There are so many variables but I don't feel like going into all of them, because then I'll start rambling lol.
You don't know what that person is going through in their lives. That's why I believe people shouldn't judge others.
Yeah, I saw a guy in his boxers this morning in the middle of the street shadow boxing in heavy traffic. I thought, wow....he might be troubled, should I call the police before he gets hit but I didn't want to label him crazy, so I let him fight his imaginary foe.
Judgment is based on our perosnal dissatisfaction over how an individual or circumstance happens to be and mixes in our desires for them to be otherwise.
You should be able to discern with a little introspection why this has damaging affects on our outlook and behaviours as a result.
It doesn't mean we must embrace everyone in to our perosnal inner circles like they are family or even like them as people, that is what friends are and are for (aka: like minds, common bonds etc)
...it simply means your outlook and action to cast stones at everyone and everything who isn't you or would do as you would do isn't serving you any good, it's only serving to make your life inherently revolve around negativity.
It's an outlook that affects behavior and vice versa.
We all do it, but it important to recognize the damage it has on ourselves and correct the behavior before we allow ourselves to start sliding down the slippery slope it starts to become.
Hope that helps explain the negative affects of being judgmental.
Last edited by rego00123; 08-20-2014 at 02:32 PM..
Reason: Phone mistakes and clarification
Depends on your reason for judging. Are you doing it out of fear? Insecurity? Arrogance? Ignorance? Protection?
I do judge other's based on personality and their actions, only to see if we would be a good match for a potential relationship or a potential friendship. Not all people get along, and personalities do tend to clash. Some people could be boring, lame, overwhelming, annoying or whatever the case may be if they are not compatible. Also you need to protect yourself and not get mixed in with the wrong crowd of people, but this can get complicated if feelings get involved. There are so many variables but I don't feel like going into all of them, because then I'll start rambling lol.
Well, let me see in the past some of it has been out of anger and perhaps dissatisfaction. That doesn't rule why I judge in general.
I may be my own worse critic and have high expectations of myself, so maybe I get disappointed with the result and some of the nonsense I have to deal with from others. Some of it is out of protection.
I mentioned before I was involved with a woman that cheated on her ex twice. Damn right I judged. I do look at behavior. I had a girl that had to drink every meal and ended up attacking someone while drunk. She also got beat up by a friend while they were drunk.
I don't want to involved myself with that. Just examples.
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Originally Posted by rego00123
Judgment is based on our perosnal dissatisfaction over how an individual or circumstance happens to be and mixes in our desires for them to be otherwise.
You should be able to discern why this has damaging affects on our outlook and behaviours as a result.
It doesn't mean we must embrace everyone in to our perosnal inner circles like they are family or even like them as people, that is what friends are and are for (aka: like minds, common bonds etc)
...it simply means your outlook to cast stones at everyone and everything who isn't you or would do as you would do isn't serving you any good, it's only serving to make your life inherently revolve around negativity.
It's an outlook that affects behavior and vice versa.
I see. I'm learning this. Part of it is I'm hard on myself and I do expect someone closely around me to behave a certain way.
I would never judge someone based on something that is out of their control. Their race, gender, sexual orientation. I will say I do judge on actions such as someone having a lot of tattoos. It is due to my upbringing mostly. With that said, discriminating on those judgements is wrong.
When you point a finger at someone else, you have three more pointing back at you.
Try it.
Lesson learned, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, and the only person you can really change or worry about changing, is you. Thats why judging others is not only wrong, but its silly.
Yeah, I saw a guy in his boxers this morning in the middle of the street shadow boxing in heavy traffic. I thought, wow....he might be troubled, should I call the police before he gets hit but I didn't want to label him crazy, so I let him fight his imaginary foe.
Wow! That's....something else. I have no words.
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but I didn't want to label him crazy, so I let him fight his imaginary foe.
