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I tend to think that guys who don't want to marry are enlightened, smart, and strong.
They are enlightened because they see through traditional gender roles and social institutions, let go of social norms, and live a more creative and enjoyable life that defies society's clinched assumptions.
They are smart because they know how to build and protect their finances, and design a life that maximizes joy, minimizes cost, and outsources upkeep.
They are strong because they do not cry lonely and needy. They are able to appreciate a life without a formal partner.
It is common for men to brag about their achievements of coupling, getting a wife and kids. That is society's narrative of acceptance. In reality, many men want or need a maid, a cook, or else their house is in chaos. Many men need a woman or else they are so lonely and depressed. Their show off of wife and kids is an expression of their weakness, that is, they can't feel complete and fulfilled without a wife and kids. They must define their life through their wife and kids, not through the quality and vibrancy of their inner self. For centuries, society regarded these men as "responsible," "mature," "masculine." You got it, the role models of all men. Pair up, knock up, have children. Winners gain respect, while losers go live in cheap apartments.
Are men really born to live that lifestyle? The male penis is one of polygamy. Its shape and function are reversely related to unchallenged social norms. Humans love independence, freedom, and achievement of new heights. Heterosexual men, up until the very recent, have largely internalized the social norms some of their ancestors designed for them and everyone. Granted that these norms were perhaps necessary at the time. Nonetheless, it is misconception to regard such things as strength and success, as opposed to single men who are "missing out" or are short of charm (as if charming guys must seek coupling). It assumes and admits, self explanatorily, that without wife and kids, men are just weak, depressed, hopeless. It says nothing about the happily single men. It says that social norms advocates may exactly be weak, depressed, and hopeless if they were in those shoes.
Are men really born to live that lifestyle? The male penis is one of polygamy. Its shape and function are reversely related to unchallenged social norms. Humans love independence, freedom, and achievement of new heights. Heterosexual men, up until the very recent, have largely internalized the social norms some of their ancestors designed for them and everyone. Granted that these norms were perhaps necessary at the time. Nonetheless, it is misconception to regard such things as strength and success, as opposed to single men who are "missing out" or are short of charm (as if charming guys must seek coupling). It assumes and admits, self explanatorily, that without wife and kids, men are just weak, depressed, hopeless. It says nothing about the happily single men. It says that social norms advocates may exactly be weak, depressed, and hopeless if they were in those shoes.
I think this paragraph ^^^ must be where the pot kicked in.
I tend to think that guys who don't want to marry are enlightened, smart, and strong.
They are enlightened because they see through traditional gender roles and social institutions, let go of social norms, and live a more creative and enjoyable life that defies society's clinched assumptions.
They are smart because they know how to build and protect their finances, and design a life that maximizes joy, minimizes cost, and outsources upkeep.
They are strong because they do not cry lonely and needy. They are able to appreciate a life without a formal partner.
It is common for men to brag about their achievements of coupling, getting a wife and kids. That is society's narrative of acceptance. In reality, many men want or need a maid, a cook, or else their house is in chaos. Many men need a woman or else they are so lonely and depressed. Their show off of wife and kids is an expression of their weakness, that is, they can't feel complete and fulfilled without a wife and kids. They must define their life through their wife and kids, not through the quality and vibrancy of their inner self. For centuries, society regarded these men as "responsible," "mature," "masculine." You got it, the role models of all men. Pair up, knock up, have children. Winners gain respect, while losers go live in cheap apartments.
Are men really born to live that lifestyle? The male penis is one of polygamy. Its shape and function are reversely related to unchallenged social norms. Humans love independence, freedom, and achievement of new heights. Heterosexual men, up until the very recent, have largely internalized the social norms some of their ancestors designed for them and everyone. Granted that these norms were perhaps necessary at the time. Nonetheless, it is misconception to regard such things as strength and success, as opposed to single men who are "missing out" or are short of charm (as if charming guys must seek coupling). It assumes and admits, self explanatorily, that without wife and kids, men are just weak, depressed, hopeless. It says nothing about the happily single men. It says that social norms advocates may exactly be weak, depressed, and hopeless if they were in those shoes.
I'm just going to go out on a limb here and assume someone said something to you about how it's weird you are not married/dating? How they think something is wrong with the fact that you are single, or you actually feel like you are missing out on the great benefits of a good relationship?
Regardless, single or in a relationship, if you are truly happy with whatever it is you are doing in life you needn't come on a forum or express how great a single man is just because he is single. Yes I do believe society does over emphasize relationships a lot, BUT I know there are a lot of other people out there who see this, and they are either single or in a relationship themselves. They don't care. They are doing what is best for them. You should do the same.
Marriage and love is not about money, sex, having the best looking woman/man. Love is real and profound. Not shallow and materialistic.
I tend to think that guys who don't want to marry are enlightened, smart, and strong.
They are enlightened because they see through traditional gender roles and social institutions, let go of social norms, and live a more creative and enjoyable life that defies society's clinched assumptions.
They are smart because they know how to build and protect their finances, and design a life that maximizes joy, minimizes cost, and outsources upkeep.
They are strong because they do not cry lonely and needy. They are able to appreciate a life without a formal partner.
It is common for men to brag about their achievements of coupling, getting a wife and kids. That is society's narrative of acceptance. In reality, many men want or need a maid, a cook, or else their house is in chaos. Many men need a woman or else they are so lonely and depressed. Their show off of wife and kids is an expression of their weakness, that is, they can't feel complete and fulfilled without a wife and kids. They must define their life through their wife and kids, not through the quality and vibrancy of their inner self. For centuries, society regarded these men as "responsible," "mature," "masculine." You got it, the role models of all men. Pair up, knock up, have children. Winners gain respect, while losers go live in cheap apartments.
Are men really born to live that lifestyle? The male penis is one of polygamy. Its shape and function are reversely related to unchallenged social norms. Humans love independence, freedom, and achievement of new heights. Heterosexual men, up until the very recent, have largely internalized the social norms some of their ancestors designed for them and everyone. Granted that these norms were perhaps necessary at the time. Nonetheless, it is misconception to regard such things as strength and success, as opposed to single men who are "missing out" or are short of charm (as if charming guys must seek coupling). It assumes and admits, self explanatorily, that without wife and kids, men are just weak, depressed, hopeless. It says nothing about the happily single men. It says that social norms advocates may exactly be weak, depressed, and hopeless if they were in those shoes.
Two thumbs up to all happily single men!
Two thumbs up for having an opinion (everyone should you know!)
"They are smart because they know how to build and protect their finances, and design a life that maximizes joy, minimizes cost, and outsources upkeep".
Just because a guy is single.. It doesn't mean he knows how to build and protect finances. I know a lot of single guys who are broke most of the time, and still live with mommy and daddy.
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