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As a single gay man, I have never had difficulty in finding hookups and casual dating. In fact, most guys I have met are interested in hookups and casual dating. It seems like the majority. Few gay guys would hold off sex until you show more seriousness or commitment. A few guys I have gone on dates with were annoyed that we weren't having sex the second or third date. Usually first dates would result in kiss or cuddle easily, if we click.
Many gay relationships started as hookups and later grew into something serious. I think this is what many straight men want but can't have.
Straight men are conditioned by women. Pregnancy fears, and other factors make women much more cautious. It's a totally different dynamic for straight people. Straight men have to pretty it up with dinners, movies, and flowers. I am quite a gay man who loves romance, but even I don't care much for flowers and candles. Just get to the deal man. Sex happens first, and then dinners and movies if we are still up for it (most of the time, it's hey thanks man that was awesome. See you later man). Guys make a mess and can clean up efficiently. I don't think about other guys until I have "built up" again or when I see someone really hot.
I also find lots of guys hot, and am not sure if I can ever settle for just one flavor. A diversified portfolio seems more attractive.
It would be awesome if you could just choose, I love hanging out with my buddies.
I just fail to see anything appealing about dudes. We're gross looking man, no matter how fit we are. Good Luck though!
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Dude. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I find guys absolutely charming. Their bodies are magical. Their eyes speak and seduce. Their personality (if a good one) melts your senses. Their heroism and I-will-fix-that are awesome. The way they steer the steering wheel. The way they install a device. The way they cook. The way they are puzzled or focusing on a task. Wiping sweat with a shirt corner. Taking a quiet moment to go through some ****. All that is just super sexy.
Oh, and we gay men give the best blow jobs. Why? Because we are men and we know men. We know what you want dude. All you self proclaimed attractive straight men here, let me take a look at you!
A hot straight guy will have to beat off women with a stick. A hot gay has to deal with the fact that most of the men he's attracted to will be straight. Hot straight guy has it better by a mile.
Now, on the average to unattractive end, I would argue yes. I believe average to unattractive gay men have it better than average to unattractive straight men. This is because:
1) Things that most women find unattractive that men can't control, like being short, or of certain ethnicity, is not as much of a handicap in the gay world. For instance, most women don't like East Asian guys, and almost all women don't like short guys, but gay guys do a lot of times. I have met gay guys that even prefer it.
2) You're taking away the 'having to approach'. For gay guys, you may make a move, he may make a move, but there is no "Well, you're a guy, so you make the move, otherwise if you don't you don't have enough courage or confidence to be worth a second of my time."
3) Since their dating pool is significantly smaller, and still somewhat of a small community, it is easier in a sense. While the average woman has hundreds of men to choose from, the average gay guy doesn't have that. So, I think in general, gay guys can't afford to be as picky.
Straight men are conditioned by women. Pregnancy fears, and other factors make women much more cautious. It's a totally different dynamic for straight people. Straight men have to pretty it up with dinners, movies, and flowers. I am quite a gay man who loves romance, but even I don't care much for flowers and candles. Just get to the deal man. Sex happens first, and then dinners and movies if we are still up for it (most of the time, it's hey thanks man that was awesome. See you later man).
Actually, it's the other way around.
Lesbians have lots of casual sex, often have sex on the first date, and/or have relationships that start as hookups. But straight women are conditioned by men to be cautious. Too many straight men lie and manipulate the women they date, or don't take care of their own children. Women have to suppress their natural desires and do more careful screening.
No chance. If gay people are anywhere from 2-5% of the population, that's an extremely small pool. If you come across 100 random guys, probably five at best will be gay and you may not be into any of them. And that's a regular occurrence for gay men.
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