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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
Ok, well it is good that we have identified the problem .
I am a prude, despite the fact that I have never found a man whose sex drive was as high as mine. I am no fun in the sack, despite um, stuff one is not allowed to say here. And I can improve by being more discriminating while kissing hundreds of strangers.
I didn't say you were bad in bed or a prude. Nor did I or anyone else imply it.
Just stated my experiences and asked a straightforward question.
I have never met someone that thought they were bad in bed. That's all.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Oh, come on, timnberline, it's no fun if you back off from obvious implications!
Of course no one thinks they are bad in bed. Therefore I accept, for the sake of discussion, that I am terrible in bed. So, what do I do about it?
There was no implication. Sorry you seem to think there was. Hivemind's experiences and mine in this regard are just similar. That no way implies they are near universal.
I have no reason to believe anything needs to be done about anything at all, and if there is something you "need" to do it isn't any of my business as I don't know you.
Never seen it happen. I suppose it could, but in reality (my reality) it almost always means you're in for some vanilla frosted vanilla.
Or an empty bottle...
Joking.
I get what you're saying. However, I have experienced all of the following:
1. Kissed quickly, had sex quickly, was always a dud in bed and really had no libido to speak of, but she was trying to "land" me.
2. Kissed quickly, rocked my world ever since (wife).
3. Kissed after a MONTH, had sex a few weeks later, had a pretty fantastic sex life during our 2 year relationship.
The truth is, you just never, ever really know by what happens early on.
Even going back to my thread about being able to tell how someone is in bed by looking, it's not that cut and dry.
My wife is a no-frills kind of gal most days. Dresses fairly low-key (although fills out a pair of jeans quite nicely ), wears little makeup, isn't overtly flirty at first glance, but once it was clear she was interested in me and I in her...WOW. Other women who would present like this turn out exactly as you would expect - i.e., a total dud.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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My wife is a no-frills kind of gal most days. Dresses fairly low-key (although fills out a pair of jeans quite nicely ), wears little makeup, isn't overtly flirty at first glance, but once it was clear she was interested in me and I in her...WOW. Other women who would present like this turn out exactly as you would expect - i.e., a total dud.
I wouldn't expect this. The most sensual / highly sexual women I've met generally wear little to no make up, dress very casually / girl next door like, or outdoorsy / sporty types.
Its generally the ones I've dated / hooked up with that doll themselves up that are the duds in the "I'm beautiful, I just need to be here for this to be awesome for you"
I get what you're saying. However, I have experienced all of the following:
1. Kissed quickly, had sex quickly, was always a dud in bed and really had no libido to speak of, but she was trying to "land" me.
2. Kissed quickly, rocked my world ever since (wife).
3. Kissed after a MONTH, had sex a few weeks later, had a pretty fantastic sex life during our 2 year relationship.
The truth is, you just never, ever really know by what happens early on.
Even going back to my thread about being able to tell how someone is in bed by looking, it's not that cut and dry.
My wife is a no-frills kind of gal most days. Dresses fairly low-key (although fills out a pair of jeans quite nicely ), wears little makeup, isn't overtly flirty at first glance, but once it was clear she was interested in me and I in her...WOW. Other women who would present like this turn out exactly as you would expect - i.e., a total dud.
I wouldn't expect this. The most sensual / highly sexual women I've met generally wear little to no make up, dress very casually / girl next door like, or outdoorsy / sporty types.
Its generally the ones I've dated / hooked up with that doll themselves up that are the duds in the "I'm beautiful, I just need to be here for this to be awesome for you"
That is true, like they're trying to prove something...
I guess my point was overstated, the tl/dr version:
You never know until you try, and experience it with him/her. There might be some clues but they can be misleading.
However, I have dated the girl next door type and have had them turn out to be frigid prudes, too.
2. Never initiates even the mildest bit of flirting.
3. Just lies there. Like you're screwing a lawn chair.
4. Ignores flirting.
5. Won't touch your body herself in any sexual way.
6. Doesn't even know how to get herself off, so how can you expect to be able to do it?
Well, I was mostly joking, but women who act in the way you describe above probably wouldn't want to do Kegels, anyway--and they certainly won't do them during the act itself
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