How do you feel about married couples having separate financial accounts? (how to, single)

[1orlando]

Originally Posted by Nolegator

I'm still pretty young and not thinking about marriage yet, but I've thought about this a lot lately because my parents frequently fought about money despite being reasonably comfortable. I can only imagine how much worse it is if a household is living paycheck to paycheck.

I think I'd want to keep a separate account, at least for the money I saved and invested prior to the relationship.

Smart move. Get your money straight first and protect it. They say you should never put all your eggs in one basket.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by 1orlando

Smart move. Get your money straight first and protect it. They say you should never put all your eggs in one basket.

An attitude like this will be exactly why you won't enjoy a lifelong successful marriage. But then, if that's not your goal go right ahead!

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

An attitude like this will be exactly why you won't enjoy a lifelong successful marriage. But then, if that's not your goal go right ahead!

I certainly hope, and for the most part don't see in real life, the stupidity that I see here.

If you go around in life with a certain attitude, you'll never get far.

If you are in a place where you base your life on a "me" and "them" attitude toward the opposite sex, you're in for a long long lonely bitter life.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

I certainly hope, and for the most part don't see in real life, the stupidity that I see here.

If you go around in life with a certain attitude, you'll never get far.

If you are in a place where you base your life on a "me" and "them" attitude toward the opposite sex, you're in for a long long lonely bitter life.

Yep.

My sincere hope is that those who make such inane comments will eventually grow up and embrace a deeper, healthier understanding of relationships

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Yep.

My sincere hope is that those who make such inane comments will eventually grow up and embrace a deeper, healthier understanding of relationships

I don't want to derail the thread too much but every so often I question my thinking and wonder if I'm on the right.

I come and read CD and I realize.

Naw, I'm fine.

Thanks to all the weirdos here, you do society a service after all.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

I don't want to derail the thread too much but every so often I question my thinking and wonder if I'm on the right.

I come and read CD and I realize.

Naw, I'm fine.

Thanks to all the weirdos here, you do society a service after all.

WORDS OUTTA MY MOUTH!!

Nail on head, Chow.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

An attitude like this will be exactly why you won't enjoy a lifelong successful marriage. But then, if that's not your goal go right ahead!

Hey loves, you asked me a question a bit ago about why I always argue with you. Look at the above and you have exhibit A.

[Butterflyfish]

My husband and I have several accounts for different purposes. I have an account where I keep some of my income to use for obligations that I came into my marriage with and are not my husband's responsibilty. He doesn't see it that way but I want to pay those debts myself.
Only one is our official "joint account" used for bills and daily expenses. But we both have access to the other accounts. There is total transparency.
Sometimes I might make a comment about "his money" or "my money" and he always corrects me. I appreciate his point of view but it's been an adjustment for me to combine our financial lives.
We never fight about money even though we handle it differently. He likes to spend and I like to save.
We compromise by me saving whatever he doesn't spend. Lol.

[TheHurricaneKid]

I must say that in those cases there is either a problem with trust, or a problem with managing money.

[Dewdroplet76]

We have all joint accounts. We make all of our financial decisions together. It works for us.