Guys: Is this you being a player or just needing to feel more comfortable with a girl? (dating, boyfriend)
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I won't bore you with details but I am 100% positive he is attracted to me (let's just say he's exhibited many of the basic signs if attraction-flirting, giving me things, staring when I'm not looking, etc.) this has been going on for a few months now.
I was pretty slow on the uptake as many of his romantic overtures went, well, right over my head and he just wasn't on my radar until recently...not to mention, I never flirt with him or anything.
Anyway, he has this female friend. She has a boyfriend and I know for sure that the two of them are NOT dating on the down low or anything like that, but I am also not naive to the fact that there could some feelings/attraction between them.
Problem is: whenever we are all together, if someone says something positive about me, he immediately gives her a compliment or compares her to me in some way. Like the other day when someone said about me "oh Missy can play the flute" he says quickly in response, "oh Kathy plays guitar". Wtf?
I also noticed that sometimes when I come around he will sort of stand behind her like he is afraid of me, lol, but the few moments that he and I do have alone and she comes around, he has no time for her and I realize he is letting go of her more and more the closer we get. He also turns red when I come into the space now which is something he never used to do before.
So I guess my question is, does he sound like a player or is it that he just needs to feel more comfortable with me?
He definitely does not sound like a player. If he's been doing stuff to make you POSITIVE that he is attracted to you for months but still does this other stuff? I'd say he's just clueless and really, really bad at flirting.
First glance says that he's actually interested in her, and either no longer interested in you, or never was. I could be wrong...I don't know all the facts. But that's what it seems like. "Players" are a bit, shall we say, better at these kinds of situations. His knee-jerk response to bring her up all the time indicates that she's on his mind.
Edit: reread it and missed the part where you didn't respond to him by flirting back, etc. It's also possible that he has a "you missed your chance/friendzone" mindset and is kinda rubbing it in your face.
He definitely does not sound like a player. If he's been doing stuff to make you POSITIVE that he is attracted to you for months but still does this other stuff? I'd say he's just clueless and really, really bad at flirting.
Hi, Wmsn4Life,
A "random, weird bunch of signals" for real.
But, you seriously don't think he's a player? *scratches head*
None of the behavior you described makes him sound like a player, Quite the opposite, actually.
Yeah, a player is GOOD with women and flirting. That's what allows him to "play" multiple women. He has romantic skills and can make you think he is into you so he can have sex with you.
This guy has not even made a move on you in months and has left you confused about whether he even likes you. If he is a player, he is really bad at it.
Based on what you describe, I don't think he does like you.
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