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I've been told by a few female friends that I friendzone myself. I'm shy around new people, and can sometimes act awkward, even if I don't mean to. It takes awhile to get comfortable around a new group/person to act completely myself -- but when I finally am myself, people love me (I go out of my way to help my friends, cook, bake, clean, fix things, am a great listener and cheerleader, etc) and I don't ask for much of anything in return.
Problem is since it takes a few weeks (months?) for me to be really comfortable around them, I lose my shot and become a close friend, while they move on to someone else.
On top of that, it seems like it's a lot of girls already in relationships are the ones who actually see me for me and like me. I'm up to three so far this year who have taken "interest" in me, including one last week who made a move, but they're all taken.
Meh.
These same girls say some day there's going to be a girl who falls head over heels for me and she's going to be the luckiest girl alive. Cheers to that "someday" being sometime in the 201x's. Last girl I could actually call my girlfriend was in the beginning of 2011, and that's the last action I got too..........
Keep the faith, bro. And a 3-year dry spell is par for the course for a lot of women, from what I've observed and been told. Even for some dudes. If you have women friends who see your good side, your chances of being introduced to potential gf's increase.
I took a time off dating before I met my last ex. My father and step-mother would always ask if I had a boyfriend yet. It made me that more determined to NOT have a boyfriend.
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I took a time off dating before I met my last ex. My father and step-mother would always ask if I had a boyfriend yet. It made me that more determined to NOT have a boyfriend.
Do you think this is a gender thing? My mother never once has asked me if I'm dating anyone, not from high school to now.
people are more accepting of it nowadays, but I do get the occasional questions. if they are rude/pushy about it, my common reply is "my personal life is none of your damn business"
I couldn't care less what anyone thinks and I am past that point of trying to explain "why" to everyone. why is does it matter? how does it affect your life in any way if I am "perma-single"?
I get asked now and then why I am single... last time was at a wedding. My answer was, "leave me alone... I've already been married and I have a child. Shouldn't you be asking the bride and groom to be when they are going to start having kids or something." (because you know, after they stop bugging you about being single, they start bugging you about getting married, followed by bugging you about having kids, then when you are going to have the next one, etc). Some people are just that way.
one good reason to stay single is money, being in a relationship will cost a lot of your time and money, all those dates , dinners, trips, gifts add up to a lot of money, just having casual acquaintances is good enough for me.
some people like to live a simple life without all the annoyances that go with relationships or having a bf / gf
when a person has limited free time, maybe they rather do something else than worry about having a bf / gf
maybe when you were back in high school or college, it would make you feel left out because all your friends were getting married, but it passes and you get over that and it becomes less important as you move on in life.
The only one who does this is my uncle, except for a couple of ex-friends. My mother hassles me about my career instead.
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(because you know, after they stop bugging you about being single, they start bugging you about getting married, followed by bugging you about having kids, then when you are going to have the next one, etc). Some people are just that way.
