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My brother came out in 2009 as a transgender.
He wants to be a woman and is already started his hormones.
I was considered a gorgeous boy(I was even a child model). Till date I have asked 3 women out(I am 28). 2 agreed and one said no(in the year 1999). I have been asked out a total of 15 times. Usually when I step out if the house I get asked out(no lies and I am a guy). On bet I have asked random girls in subways and buses for their number....a total of around 30 times and have only been turned down 6 times(these are random strangers).
I have never kissed. I have had sex 2 times- both paid.
Yes, I get asked a lot of times if I am gay. My father cried his eyes out last year asking me why I have never had a girl. He was crying his eyes out after a terrible fight with mother. He knows that one son is a hopeless case(He is anti gay/trans and cannot stand my brother) and I am the only hope.
So, if some person asks me if I am seeing anyone and when I say I am a 28 year old man with zero experiences in love and sex and romance they are shocked. A few give me a certain look as if deciding I am gay. Others ask why. I say depression is a terrible thing.
My brother came out in 2009 as a transgender.
He wants to be a woman and is already started his hormones.
I was considered a gorgeous boy(I was even a child model). Till date I have asked 3 women out(I am 28). 2 agreed and one said no(in the year 1999). I have been asked out a total of 15 times. Usually when I step out if the house I get asked out(no lies and I am a guy). On bet I have asked random girls in subways and buses for their number....a total of around 30 times and have only been turned down 6 times(these are random strangers).
I have never kissed. I have had sex 2 times- both paid.
Yes, I get asked a lot of times if I am gay. My father cried his eyes out last year asking me why I have never had a girl. He was crying his eyes out after a terrible fight with mother. He knows that one son is a hopeless case(He is anti gay/trans and cannot stand my brother) and I am the only hope.
So, if some person asks me if I am seeing anyone and when I say I am a 28 year old man with zero experiences in love and sex and romance they are shocked. A few give me a certain look as if deciding I am gay. Others ask why. I say depression is a terrible thing.
People constantly berate me about my single status and try to give me useless advice. I regret asking my father for advice because according to him, he was quite the young buck. I don't think I can't live up to that. My mom has been exposed to my porn habit, so she always makes me feel bad about myself. She is more career oriented. The few people I manage to call friends also jeer and pretend to set me up with other people. I was at an event the other day and my friend jokingly asked of I was texting a romantic interest. A mutual friend of ours who was sitting a few feet away nearly lost her mind. WHAT??!!! YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND? IMPOSSIBLE.
I doubt anyone gives my forever alone status much thought. My parents know that I date and it just never goes anywhere. I'm sure my extended family thinks it's weird that I've never brought a guy to a family function. Even when I was dating someone for over a year, I never brought him around my family. They're probably waiting for me to come out as a lesbian.
Do you think this is a gender thing? My mother never once has asked me if I'm dating anyone, not from high school to now.
I think it's a cultural/class thing. My stepmother is a piece of trash who could never get by without a man. She actually said once about a former classmate of mine "she never got a man either." The girl to whom she was referring is drop-dead gorgeous and has a great job and plenty of friends, but god forbid she never "got" a man. :eyeroll:
The lower classes where I'm from judge people not on their accomplishments, but whether or not they have "a man."
My mother never once put an ounce of pressure on me to get married or have kids, though, thank god. She once said to me "getting married is not an accomplishment; having a good marriage is." Too many people worry too much about not being single that they forget to fulfill themselves first.
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I think it's a cultural/class thing. My stepmother is a piece of trash who could never get by without a man. She actually said once about a former classmate of mine "she never got a man either." The girl to whom she was referring is drop-dead gorgeous and has a great job and plenty of friends, but god forbid she never "got" a man. :eyeroll:
The lower classes where I'm from judge people not on their accomplishments, but whether or not they have "a man."
My mother never once put an ounce of pressure on me to get married or have kids, though, thank god. She once said to me "getting married is not an accomplishment; having a good marriage is." Too many people worry too much about not being single that they forget to fulfill themselves first.
Interesting. Yeah, my parents and most of my friends parents seem to have asked us about school, more school, and career.
Interesting. Yeah, my parents and most of my friends parents seem to have asked us about school, more school, and career.
Yeah, those were the only people in my life who ever really asked me about that sort of thing, with the exception of a Chinese woman who once told my friend and me to "not get too educated" or we would never find husbands. Lol.
Lol, no. I am straight and always have been. I was a face model at age 7 because I have a feminine face. Still do.
But, I am also depressive, bipolar, anxiety ridden, lazy and socially inept. I was sexually abused by my uncle when I was 7. Very badly. Had to forcibly give him blowjobs for 4 consecutive days. I remember being in a revere...a trance like state for many days after that. Innocence died and so did me I guess. The one time I did have sex with a prostitute(in 2005 as a 20 year old deeply frustrated man) I remember getting flashes of that man while in the act. It was terrifying. All these years I made myself believe that I'll come back stronger. Get over my inner aura of fear, disdain and anomie. Never happened.
Women are drawn to me like flies(because of my face and eyes;they've said) and then repelled even sooner. To women, atleast for relationship a personality matters more than looks. What good are looks when your heart rate increases as soon as you go in public? I've accepted this fate but not my parents. Hence I thought of responding here.
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