Guy tells me to guard my heart?? (girls, loving, single)
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Women tend to watch out for men using them for sex, but I see men using women for friendship more often.
I see a lot of men having female friends, using them for emotional support -- and she thinks they are building a romantic relationship, but he is secretly not interested. He dumps her as a friend as soon as he finds a real gf.
I guess this is what people call the friend zone. I think he has friend zoned you.
But it could just be the haven't met in real life thing.
I don't understand this whole phenomenon of liking someone you've never met before.
I remember, wayyyyy back before texting was too much of a thing, when people would "date" in chat rooms. They'd say they were boyfriend/girlfriend, yet had never met. What??
It's no wonder Catfish is a successful show.
The bottom line is, you CANNOT like someone until you meet them, spend time with them, etc. Until then, it's all just words.
Insist that he moves on to real life, or don't worry about this stuff and find something real. It's all a fantasy.
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I remember, wayyyyy back before texting was too much of a thing, when people would "date" in chat rooms. They'd say they were boyfriend/girlfriend, yet had never met. What??
Women tend to watch out for men using them for sex, but I see men using women for friendship more often.
Men using women for friendship???
As usual I don't get what your saying. A huge amount of men have sort of a weird thing with women, it's like if they can't bed them they typically don't want to have a lot to do with them, not all of course but I've rarely seen in my life men actively "using" women for friendship. Just isn't something that most men do. Most men don't really actively try to have just straight friendships with women. They may be friends, but it's because he got friendzoned.
To answer the thread, if someone tells you to guard your heart, I'd say listen.
It’s been a month since I’ve been talking to this guy. We are both 26 years old. We plan on hanging out soon. We text every day with either him or I initiating it first. We sometimes talk on the phone before we go to bed as well. Call me weird, but I’m already liking this guy and I find myself opening up about myself. I don’t usually open up easily, but with him, I find myself doing it. He knows I’m interested in him. And he hasn’t said it, but I assume he does to if he’s having a conversation with me almost the entire day at times during his work.
Last night we were texting, and this time it was different. I was about to tell him that I like him, but I stopped myself. And he knew I was going to say the same, so he tells me not to say it. He says, don’t say it. Guard your heart. I asked him if I should guard my heart from HIM as well. He replies, yes, especially at this stage and especially since he’s a guy. I told him okay. I guess this bothered me in a bit because it was the answer I needed but didn’t want to hear. He gives me confused signals. He texts me first thing in the morning before he goes to work almost every day. He texts me throughout the day asking me what I’m up to etc. He texts me at night before he goes to sleep. When I say I’m going out at night with friends, he would jokingly say things like my curfew is at a certain time etc. And he would ask me who I’m going out with. I mean why is he saying things like to guard my heart from him yet I THINK he likes me? Should I just let him go??
If you have to ask, you intuitively know what the answer is.
The minute you catch yourself asking "why" is the minute you need to walk.
Any guy who's serious about you, lets you know, CLEARLY. No inconsistencies. All straight, real, genuine, kind loving actions. That part is black and white. Anything in between that, dump the person. (He sounds so juvenile)
And, if he's playing games, let him play.. by himself. No need to sit and analyze. You're a grown woman. Your time's too precious.
If you have to ask, you intuitively know what the answer is.
The minute you catch yourself asking "why" is the minute you need to walk.
Any guy who's serious about you, lets you know, CLEARLY. No inconsistencies. All straight, real, genuine, kind loving actions. That part is black and white. Anything in between that, dump the person. (He sounds so juvenile)
And, if he's playing games, let him play.. by himself. No need to sit and analyze. You're a grown woman. Your time's too precious.
This x 1000!!!!
Every woman should print this out, laminate it, and put it in a prominent place.
Mmm...I was in a situation just like you, it just ended last year.
I fell for a guy I never met, it didn't end well. It was a 3 year emotional roller coaster, why did I start to like him I don't know. I was very naive and probably just fell for the idea that someone I liked, had finally liked me. Anyway with this guy it seems as though he doesn't want to commit and probably doesn't want to deal with the emotional backlash of him blowing you off at the last minute.
It seems pretty pointless to me. I would have reservations on continuing to talk to him, but that's just me. If he has no intentions on being with you, or anything like that, then he is not doing a good job at communicating that. I would ask him to tell you honestly how he feels and discuss expectations. If they aren't compatible with each other, it's probably best to move on. Which is probably really what you need to do.
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A huge amount of men have sort of a weird thing with women, it's like if they can't bed them they typically don't want to have a lot to do with them, not all of course but I've rarely seen in my life men actively "using" women for friendship. Just isn't something that most men do. Most men don't really actively try to have just straight friendships with women. They may be friends, but it's because he got friendzoned.
