Guy tells me to guard my heart?? (advice, internet, feelings)
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Originally Posted by kat949
If you have to ask, you intuitively know what the answer is.
The minute you catch yourself asking "why" is the minute you need to walk.
Any guy who's serious about you, lets you know, CLEARLY. No inconsistencies. All straight, real, genuine, kind loving actions. That part is black and white. Anything in between that, dump the person. (He sounds so juvenile)
And, if he's playing games, let him play.. by himself. No need to sit and analyze. You're a grown woman. Your time's too precious.
I want to counter this as it seems too black and white.
But you know, looking at my actions, I can do nothing but agree. If I'm really into someone, they straight up no it. There is no ambiguity about it and no ambivalence in my actions or words.
I firmly believe in meeting a woman face to face to see what she looks like, get to know her, hang out. if she begins to have feelings for me, I'd know it because I'd know the woman I'm talking to. This texting without actually meeting the other person could mean He (or She) is playing you
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It could be his way of flirting with you...en guarde! Im coming for your heart!
I agree with those that say you cant like someone until you know them, and logically, all you know right now is a voice on a phone. Any feelings you have right now are from you - building him up in your mind - fantasizing.
Fantasies are healthy. They help us work out the unknown. Dont be too disappointed if he doesnt live up to your fantasy. In reality its hard for anyone to be as completely perfect as we can build them up to be in our minds.
It could be a players warning too. Players often warn their victims so that when they are caught at the game, they can relieve themselves of any responsibility when they have to face the music.
He could be just telling you he is so wonderful that he is going to steal your heart, so you better protect it - giving him a romantic challenge.
You dont know until you meet. You need to be smart when you meet. Does he walk the walk? Are his words supported by his actions?
He could be a passionate romantic, or a player playing.
Listen to him. He told you to protect your heart. Regardless of which way he turns out to be, it would be foolish of you not to heed his warning.
It’s been a month since I’ve been talking to this guy. We are both 26 years old. We plan on hanging out soon. We text every day with either him or I initiating it first. We sometimes talk on the phone before we go to bed as well. Call me weird, but I’m already liking this guy and I find myself opening up about myself. I don’t usually open up easily, but with him, I find myself doing it. He knows I’m interested in him. And he hasn’t said it, but I assume he does to if he’s having a conversation with me almost the entire day at times during his work.
Last night we were texting, and this time it was different. I was about to tell him that I like him, but I stopped myself. And he knew I was going to say the same, so he tells me not to say it. He says, don’t say it. Guard your heart. I asked him if I should guard my heart from HIM as well. He replies, yes, especially at this stage and especially since he’s a guy. I told him okay. I guess this bothered me in a bit because it was the answer I needed but didn’t want to hear. He gives me confused signals. He texts me first thing in the morning before he goes to work almost every day. He texts me throughout the day asking me what I’m up to etc. He texts me at night before he goes to sleep. When I say I’m going out at night with friends, he would jokingly say things like my curfew is at a certain time etc. And he would ask me who I’m going out with. I mean why is he saying things like to guard my heart from him yet I THINK he likes me? Should I just let him go??
IDK, OP. Why wouldn't you guard your heart with a complete stranger? That's just common sense. You don't know who this guy really is. At this stage, you should be playing it safe. Google him or run a check on him.
It could be his way of flirting with you...en guarde! Im coming for your heart!
I agree with those that say you cant like someone until you know them, and logically, all you know right now is a voice on a phone. Any feelings you have right now are from you - building him up in your mind - fantasizing.
Fantasies are healthy. They help us work out the unknown. Dont be too disappointed if he doesnt live up to your fantasy. In reality its hard for anyone to be as completely perfect as we can build them up to be in our minds.
It could be a players warning too. Players often warn their victims so that when they are caught at the game, they can relieve themselves of any responsibility when they have to face the music.
He could be just telling you he is so wonderful that he is going to steal your heart, so you better protect it - giving him a romantic challenge.
You dont know until you meet. You need to be smart when you meet. Does he walk the walk? Are his words supported by his actions?
He could be a passionate romantic, or a player playing.
Listen to him. He told you to protect your heart. Regardless of which way he turns out to be, it would be foolish of you not to heed his warning.
Best wishes!
Yup!
If you're not actually meeting up anytime soon OP, I'd give him the boot. This is why texting is lame.
People like to appear so "elusive" and "mysterious" when it's all a crock of $hit until you meet IRL.
You have never even met him. How can you possibly take anything serious at this point? And why are you texting someone for a MONTH without meeting them? This situation is all kinds of weird.
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