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Ugh. I've posted about this guy before but he continues to baffle me. I dated him for about a month before i moved. The last week I was there he kinda fell off the face of the earth. A couple weeks later, when I was in my new city about 1.5 hours away he started contacting me a few times a week over a few months now to catch up. The thing is, whenever I initiate contact with him, he replies with short answers and doesn't attempt to carry on the conversation. When he contacts me first he has plenty to say
Anyway I visit his city often. I have not seen him even though he often asks me to. This weekend I let him know I was there and we made plans to meet up because we were both going to be out on the town. I never heard from him! Around 3 am he texts me and apologized and said he just got in and his phone died and he was really sorry and if I was free the next day. I didn't answer. He sent me another text today with another apology and I have yet to respond.
I'm really confused by his behavior because I really do like this guy. Should I just be upfront and ask him how he feels about me or would this make me look desperate/ insecure? I still don't know if he is interested in pursuing a relationship or just some type of hookup situation. We have never slept together and he hasn't pressured me, i'm just not getting what he wants from me!
Sounds to me that either he's got one on the side, or, more likely, you ARE the one on the side.
He's got you right where he want's you; 2nd guessing yourself and creating drama out of thin air. Women hate it when men play this game as well or better than they do so of course they're going to advise you to kick him to the curb and go find a guy you can more easily twirl around your finger who jumps when you tell him to, but in reality you're intrigued and turned on by this guy. Logic and reason goes out the door.
Ugh. I've posted about this guy before but he continues to baffle me. I dated him for about a month before i moved. The last week I was there he kinda fell off the face of the earth. A couple weeks later, when I was in my new city about 1.5 hours away he started contacting me a few times a week over a few months now to catch up. The thing is, whenever I initiate contact with him, he replies with short answers and doesn't attempt to carry on the conversation. When he contacts me first he has plenty to say
Anyway I visit his city often. I have not seen him even though he often asks me to. This weekend I let him know I was there and we made plans to meet up because we were both going to be out on the town. I never heard from him! Around 3 am he texts me and apologized and said he just got in and his phone died and he was really sorry and if I was free the next day. I didn't answer. He sent me another text today with another apology and I have yet to respond.
I'm really confused by his behavior because I really do like this guy. Should I just be upfront and ask him how he feels about me or would this make me look desperate/ insecure? I still don't know if he is interested in pursuing a relationship or just some type of hookup situation. We have never slept together and he hasn't pressured me, i'm just not getting what he wants from me!
Ahahaha.. No he's definitely interested.
He's just BUSY with his LIFE which is MORE important because it's HIS LIFE! I really hope you didn't take any of the advice people listed here, skimming through those pages was just bad...
Ok so today he sends me a text asking when I'll be back in town. I'm actually coming back tomorrow to visit a friend but I didn't tell him that, I just said I don't know. Anyways during our conversation I mentioned I was starved, next thing I know a pizza was delivered for me from him. Yea, I know this is kinda corny...but I appreciated the small gesture. What do you all think? Could he possible really like me?
Ok so today he sends me a text asking when I'll be back in town. I'm actually coming back tomorrow to visit a friend but I didn't tell him that, I just said I don't know. Anyways during our conversation I mentioned I was starved, next thing I know a pizza was delivered for me from him. Yea, I know this is kinda corny...but I appreciated the small gesture. What do you all think? Could he possible really like me?
Not necessarily. I'm losing track here.. I thought he mentioned he wasn't looking for a relationship.
I've known guys who will drive 10 hours down just for a straight booty call. You can ask my friend this, and she will tell you, people will do anything to get laid. The guys would even cook her a morning breakfast meal- French toast, flowers, the whole works.
When a guy says "I'm NOT looking for a relationship right now" doesn't matter if he buys you a bottle of perfume and rents the most expensive elegant hotel room and posh suite, fine dining and everything, expensive plays, the guy's not into you enough to be his woman. He wants the poonaners. Sorry. Everything else is just to build up for some good sex.
Probably an over-generalization (told by a guy to me) "Men give love to get sex" "Women give sex to get love." Not always the case, but some truth to it. Be careful. This guy sounds like a waste of space in your life.
I would forget about him OP, is this really the kind of guy you would want to be in a relationship anyway? He's got other priorities, so he should not be your priority.
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