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Great Danes are also huge but are considered one of the best apartment dogs simply because they require little activity and space and are so content just lounging around.
It's not the being huge, it's the being slobbery. And you're thinking of greyhounds, who are docile, low-energy dogs when they're not coursing for prey, and while long-legged, are not massive dogs with a huge need for space. Great Danes, St. Bernards, Boxers, etc. are too large and high energy for apartment dwelling to be the most appropriate setting. I do have neighbors who keep a Great Dane in a small place, and they have to walk him an average of two hours a day.
I can see somebody being not that cool with sharing an apartment with a St. Bernard. However, I would have a hard time marrying somebody who wasn't into dogs, in general.
OP, neither of you is going to change significantly. You are who you are. Which is not to say that you can't cultivate table manners, or that she can't quit being rude and making nasty comments about a beloved pet. But if you try to make her enjoy being crass or ungroomed, or she tries to make you care about preppy pursuits (whatever those are, anyway), get used to disappointment. You an adjust your behavior for a loved one if you are doing things that upset him or her. You cannot change your values or personality, though, and shouldn't have to.
OP, neither of you is going to change significantly. You are who you are. Which is not to say that you can't cultivate table manners, or that she can't quit being rude and making nasty comments about a beloved pet. But if you try to make her enjoy being crass or ungroomed, or she tries to make you care about preppy pursuits (whatever those are, anyway), get used to disappointment. You an adjust your behavior for a loved one if you are doing things that upset him or her. You cannot change your values or personality, though, and shouldn't have to.
Agree! Frankly, OP, I don't think it sounds promising . It sounds like you two are not compatible people in your core values. If these annoyances are at this level now, it's not going to get any better after marriage unless you two get pre-marital counseling. Which isn't a bad idea in general. For example, have you two discussed financial goals and spending habits? Are you on the same page re: kids? We already know you're not on the same page re: pets.
How long an engagement is this? You might want to extend it, while you sort things out. Honestly, she sounds like she looks down her nose at you. And you sound like you deliberately try to provoke her with your belching. This isn't a match made in heaven.
Agree! Frankly, OP, I don't think it sounds promising . It sounds like you two are not compatible people in your core values. If these annoyances are at this level now, it's not going to get any better after marriage unless you two get pre-marital counseling. Which isn't a bad idea in general. For example, have you two discussed financial goals and spending habits? Are you on the same page re: kids? We already know you're not on the same page re: pets.
How long an engagement is this? You might want to extend it, while you sort things out. Honestly, she sounds like she looks down her nose at you. And you sound like you deliberately try to provoke her with your belching. This isn't a match made in heaven.
I will admit to doing certain things just to get a rise out of here, but she does that to me as well. She knows I don't like being around my parents, but every so often I'll get woken up with " Tonight we're going to dinner with your parents", but she's kidding. My response is waiting until she gets comfy on the couch and telling the dog to go find her. He ends up on the couch next to her trying to lick her face. Kid wise, she wants them sooner than I do and she wants more than I do, but yeah, we both want children
I know! How could she not love a doggie who loves her?
because dogs are ugly.
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