Is it a deal breaker for you if he/she has a kid(s) already? (dating, married)
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Having no kids was and still is a mandatory for me to be serious with someone because I don't have kids. I am not enthused about getting into an instant family situation with someone elses kids. Lately I have been rethinking this because of the preponderance of single moms out there. For every single mom I can only assume there is a single dad unless the same dudes are knocking up all the women.
I'd like to also hear from single parents (read, both men and women) how it affects your dating life. Do your standards raise, lower, no change? Not meaning to sound harsh or insensitive but having kid(s) already is a lot to bring into a relationship with someone that doesn't have kids, IE baggage. I could see myself getting serious with a single mom that has ONE child but wants more with me, but she would need to be extra special in other areas for me to consider her with other women that do not have a child yet.
And for the women out there considering single dads, how do you feel about the fact that his financial means are severely hindered by his ex? Friend of mine is paying $900/month in child support for ONE child. If he marries a woman it will factor in his income and hers to come up with a new higher number each month that he pays to another woman. Money that could be used in your relationship that is instead going toward another woman.
i am a dude and i will not date a lady with kids. i don't want to raise another man's kids. Too much drama!
You do realize some of those single Mother's with children are widowed right?
There also is only as much drama as one allows into their lives.
Not every woman who has children is a drama queen that has a moron ex whatever that fathered their children.
Having no kids was and still is a mandatory for me to be serious with someone because I don't have kids. I am not enthused about getting into an instant family situation with someone elses kids. Lately I have been rethinking this because of the preponderance of single moms out there. For every single mom I can only assume there is a single dad unless the same dudes are knocking up all the women.
I'd like to also hear from single parents (read, both men and women) how it affects your dating life. Do your standards raise, lower, no change? Not meaning to sound harsh or insensitive but having kid(s) already is a lot to bring into a relationship with someone that doesn't have kids, IE baggage. I could see myself getting serious with a single mom that has ONE child but wants more with me, but she would need to be extra special in other areas for me to consider her with other women that do not have a child yet.
And for the women out there considering single dads, how do you feel about the fact that his financial means are severely hindered by his ex? Friend of mine is paying $900/month in child support for ONE child. If he marries a woman it will factor in his income and hers to come up with a new higher number each month that he pays to another woman. Money that could be used in your relationship that is instead going toward another woman.
When I call a girl I am interested in and her kid is always SCREAMING for attention in the background it kind of makes me feel awkward and that I am interrupting. Plus I don't want someone else's child to have to care for at least not at this young point in my life. So yes it does but I am younger.
yes. i want my first child to be with someone who's first time it is also... i don't think that is unreasonable and the saying "plenty more fish in the sea" must mean there ill be someone who suits just getting through the sea weed
Kid(s) it's typically a deal breaker for me. One child would be acceptable under certain circumstances: widowed, no baby daddy drama, and most important....the option of having more children in the future.
I have a son, it's never had any effect on my dating. He's mother is married and they're happy.
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