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She perhaps just wants to keep the guy interested with no intention of teasing him. Give the girl a break. She is in her 20s, and is still a virgin. She perhaps wants to be loved more than anything.
Are you insinuating that's a good thing, for a woman to use sex as a weapon? "To keep the guy interested"?
Come on, now. Kissing a guy and then crawling into bed with him after having just met is not the way to get "loved". It's actually a good way to get raped.
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The I'm interested until I get sex and then I'm out thing is either a myth, or just the truth with such a small group of dbags, it isn't worth bring up.
Are you insinuating that's a good thing, for a woman to use sex as a weapon? "To keep the guy interested"?
Come on, now. Kissing a guy and then crawling into bed with him after having just met is not the way to get "loved". It's actually a good way to get raped.
Are you insinuating that's a good thing, for a woman to use sex as a weapon? "To keep the guy interested"?
Come on, now. Kissing a guy and then crawling into bed with him after having just met is not the way to get "loved". It's actually a good way to get raped.
I am not saying this is a GOOD thing. I am just saying give her a break. She is here asking for advice. no? She perhaps didn't realize what she was doing. That is all I am saying. No?
I am not saying this is a GOOD thing. I am just saying give her a break. She is here asking for advice. no? She perhaps didn't realize what she was doing. That is all I am saying. No?
She's been given this advice over & over, on multiple threads.
Are you insinuating that's a good thing, for a woman to use sex as a weapon? "To keep the guy interested"?
Come on, now. Kissing a guy and then crawling into bed with him after having just met is not the way to get "loved". It's actually a good way to get raped.
Agreed. And this happened before, where she's in a guy's bedroom making out, he starts to take off her shirt, and she stops him-telling him it's too soon.
If she does this alot, and hasn't been raped, she's lucky she's with guys who can take no for an answer.
I am all for wanting a relationship, and exclusivity before sex. That's fine. But the words, belief and actions need to match, which they don't here.
That's like the example I gave. Tell the guy I met I am not ready for sex, but invite him to my house late and night, while I walk-around half naked in front of him. Something's not matching there lol
She says it's too soon for sex, they just met. Why is "We just met" an excuse for sex, but not having guys in her bedroom sleeping in her bed, when she in fact doesn't even know what their intentions are, as she said, she doesn't know if this guy wants relationships or not.
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I am not saying this is a GOOD thing. I am just saying give her a break. She is here asking for advice. no? She perhaps didn't realize what she was doing. That is all I am saying. No?
She knows what she is doing because we explained it to her exhaustively in her last thread. The one where she complained about a guy not respecting her after she pulled the same cocktease, and also complained that guys blowing her off after a night of bedroom "cuddling" happens to her all the time.
I don't want to say she is dumb, but what other explanation is there?
She knows what she is doing because we explained it to her exhaustively in her last thread. The one where she complained about a guy not respecting her after she pulled the same cocktease, and also complained that guys blowing her off after a night of bedroom "cuddling" happens to her all the time.
I don't want to say she is dumb, but what other explanation is there?
I thought she was just asking "if the guy was interested in her?" No?
It's hard to determine why he has not gotten back to you, though I'd be reluctant to definitively state that he has lost interest. <snip>
Please don't be bothered by others saying that you're promiscuous, etc. First off, it's your life and you decide what you do and do not feel comfortable doing. Second, it's not like what you and he did was that aggressive to begin with. I'm not that aggressive, but these forums seems hyper sensitive/critical to physical contact prior to some arbitrary number of encounters. What you and he did is relatively tame compared to others, so just continue to do what you feel comfortable with...
Hallelujah... a voice of reason. Thank you.
OP... your boundaries are your boundaries. Don't let anyone tell you what your boundaries should be. You are the one who decides where and what those boundaries are. And, also... remember... everything anybody on this forum says... is their OPINION. It's your life; only your opinion matters.
Hang in.
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