Million Dollar Question: How did you know your S.O was The One? (dating, wife)

[LostinPhilly]

Yes, yes and yes. I know this question has already been asked a zillion times in different ways.

Everyone just says "You just know". What does "You just know mean"? What kind of a feeling is this?

Does this instant feeling have to be "instantly" reciprocated by the other party?

* The One = The person you want to marry/spend the rest of your life with

Many Thanks,

[Kings Gambit]

"The One" as in the one I will marry right? I guess that really is the only "The One" the one can be since boyfriends/girlfriends should never be considered "The One".

With my wife, I didnt really think of her as being "The One" until after I had a chance to really get to know her which only comes with time. Sure she had all the physical, mental, spiritual, and artistic traits that I was looking for, but it still really only takes time to determine if a person is the one you want to marry (i.e., spend the rest of your life with). It took about 2.5 - 3 years of dating before I came to that conclusion. Then I asked her to marry me. It was about 4 years after we met when we got married.

[hawaiiancoconut]

Short lived infatuation, IMO. The first time your SO pisses you off bad, you'd be questioning that feeling, Lol.

No such thing in my book as the 'one'.

[rego00123]

I knew when I actually wanted to spend time with her for reasons that where not just my own.

it's really that simple.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by LostinPhilly

Yes, yes and yes. I know this question has already been asked a zillion times in different ways.

Everyone just says "You just know". What does "You just know mean"? What kind of a feeling is this?

Does this instant feeling have to be "instantly" reciprocated by the other party?

* The One = The person you want to marry/spend the rest of your life with

Many Thanks,

Are you asking if you just know, instantly upon first meeting, or after a certain point in time?

[glenmorangie]

I think the realization hits some people after enduring a personal or family crisis where you and your significant other come out stronger than you went in. If someone sticks by you through tough times, they're showing you they're in it for the long haul.

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by LostinPhilly

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Everyone just says "You just know". What does "You just know mean"? What kind of a feeling is this?

You'll know it when you feel it!
I know I did, a few months into our relationship - and we are married for 34 years now.

[Adhom]

1) The One experience you feel when you've only known a person for a short amount of time

This happened to me several times and by experience, isn't based on anything rational. None of these people became the One.

2) The One experience you feel after being with a person for a long time even though you started off rather lukewarm

This is my current situation. It's been rewarding but still requires work to maintain the One state

3) The One experience you feel from first sight and continues on into the long term

You hear people have this magical experience here and there but none of the couples I know have experienced this.

[Minntoaz]

And here it goes... I just did! But to break it down more conceptually...

1. Fit my exact description of what I am attracted to. I could of married him based off of just that... kidding.. kind of.
2. Had a witty personality, appeared to be interested and had same foundational beliefs-->now if they have this AND your attracted... that's enough to "just know".
3. He followed up and asked to take me to dinner (on Valentines day).
4. Offered his coat, made good conversation, treated me like a lady and dropped me off without trying anything.
5. Continued calling, asking on dates etc until after we went out about 4 or 5 times or over the course of 2 months.
6. Dated for 1.5 years and he asked me to marry him.
7. We've been married for 3 years and I still know there is absolutely NO ONE else who would be better suited for me. He tells me what I need.

All the little kinks can be worked out but if you're not attracted to their looks or personality and on the same page for beliefs... it's not going to work. Best of luck!

[Pikantari]

I knew it the first day we met. There was something in his eyes and they way he looked at me. I know it sounds crazy but that day I smiled to myself and thought that one day I was going to love him and we would be married.