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I think the situation isn't really worth thinking about anymore.
We got to talk a little on FB and he gave me certain details which confirm my initial thought of politely declining his offer.
He started talking about his past loves and stated that he dated a girl for about 10 months. She dumped him 3 weeks ago. This screams "rebound". The way he phrased his sentence is a red flag in itself: "My soulmate (girlfriend) left me 3 weeks ago". If he's using the words "soulmate" and "girlfriend", he sure isn't ready to date just yet.
I had to ask him if he's religious as he was explaining what kind of girl he's into. The moment I asked the question, he log off the chat. Coincidence? I think not.
I think the situation isn't really worth thinking about anymore.
We got to talk a little on FB and he gave me certain details which confirm my initial thought of politely declining his offer.
He started talking about his past loves and stated that he dated a girl for about 10 months. She dumped him 3 weeks ago. This screams "rebound". The way he phrased his sentence is a red flag in itself: "My soulmate (girlfriend) left me 3 weeks ago". If he's using the words "soulmate" and "girlfriend", he sure isn't ready to date just yet.
I had to ask him if he's religious as he was explaining what kind of girl he's into. The moment I asked the question, he log off the chat. Coincidence? I think not.
No need for me to worry anymore.
Good! He wasn't the right one anyway or you would have felt differently right from the start!
I think the situation isn't really worth thinking about anymore.
We got to talk a little on FB and he gave me certain details which confirm my initial thought of politely declining his offer.
He started talking about his past loves and stated that he dated a girl for about 10 months. She dumped him 3 weeks ago. This screams "rebound". The way he phrased his sentence is a red flag in itself: "My soulmate (girlfriend) left me 3 weeks ago". If he's using the words "soulmate" and "girlfriend", he sure isn't ready to date just yet.
I had to ask him if he's religious as he was explaining what kind of girl he's into. The moment I asked the question, he log off the chat. Coincidence? I think not.
I think if you ever want to have a good relationship, then it's important for you to take a look at yourself and why you keep getting hung up on guys that don't treat you well, are emotionally unavailable/just looking to hook up, or for whatever other reason are not right for you. I've been there myself more times than I care to admit getting hung up for weeks and sometimes months on guys recently out of relationships, guys who led me on and wouldn't commit, guys who lived with their parents and didn't have stable employment, and on and on.
Maybe you're just not ready for a long term serious relationship, so you choose guys who you know deep down won't give you that anyway. I'm almost 31 and I've grown up and past those games now. I truly feel ready for a serious relationship and I would appreciate the hell out of a decent guy who wants to commit and knows how to communicate his feelings and not play games. I think when you're ready for something and someone meaningful you'll stop pining for guys like the one you're hung up on now and you'll realize those guys are a waste of time and will never change.
Maybe you're just not ready for a long term serious relationship, so you choose guys who you know deep down won't give you that anyway.
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I think when you're ready for something and someone meaningful you'll stop pining for guys like the one you're hung up on now and you'll realize those guys are a waste of time and will never change.
The bolded is a very profound statement!!
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