Suggested threesome to partner, now she doesn't speak to me (male, cheaters)
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We need to be careful with our assumptions in both directions. Unless I missed it in the thread (which is possible), we don't know she was "without help" either.
We can't assume that she was boring or exciting, we can't assume that she was caring for the child solo or if the OP was contributing heavily, we don't know a lot of things. The assumptions don't only go one way, but as is often the case, posters will identify with the position most closely to their own.
Exactly. So why were you assuming?
The OP said multiple times during the thread that he didn't help with the baby, and doesn't know how. So that part wasn't an assumption.
Bummer they're breaking up, though. Being weirdly clueless has its price. I hope the kid still gets to have his dad in his life, though.
At least he had the cojones to do it. I give him props for that.
Had the cojones to do what? Care for his own child? Nope, no cojones there... Suck it up while his SO struggles through childbirth, then caring for a newborn 24/7, and be mature about sex getting a little boring for awhile? Nope, no cojones there.... Treat his wife with respect? Hm....nope. What are we supposed to give him props for?
Well, from his posts, all I can assume is that he is that stupid or this is all made up.
He could be a narcissist. They tend to assume that what they want is what the people close to them also want. They have poor boundaries between self and other in that way. Or he didn't really care what his wife wanted.
Props for...propositioning his coworker, her agreeing, and then asking his wife if it's okay if he have sex with her and the wife can join in too?
Yes. Too many men (and women) aren't truthful about their desires. And even the ones that are, don't have the cojones to even ask. What if this SO said "yes" to the threesome?
Yes. Too many men (and women) aren't truthful about their desires. And even the ones that are, don't have the cojones to even ask. What if this SO said "yes" to the threesome?
No - what would have taken cojones is to be truthful with your PARTNER about your desires - not your coworker. That's just stupid. Anyone who understand how a relationship works can see that.
Had the cojones to do what? Care for his own child? Nope, no cojones there... Suck it up while his SO struggles through childbirth, then caring for a newborn 24/7, and be mature about sex getting a little boring for awhile? Nope, no cojones there.... Treat his wife with respect? Hm....nope. What are we supposed to give him props for?
Lets say if the guy didn't have the kid and none of that. Just wanted a threesome. We'd still be slamming him.
Also, I'm not saying what he did was right.
He also fully admits that he doesn't know how to take care of this child. In my own experiences, many men would simply run for the hills.
No - what would have taken cojones is to be truthful with your PARTNER about your desires - not your coworker. That's just stupid. Anyone who understand how a relationship works can see that.
Confusing the issue. I'm saying he has the *alls or "gumption" to do what he did. Never said it was right. Never said it wasn't stupid.
gumption: shrewd or spirited initiative and resourcefulness.
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