Suggested threesome to partner, now she doesn't speak to me

[Charlotte Panthers]

This guy is an idiot, but that doesn't mean he's a bad father like some of you have suggested.

Couples split up all the time because someone did something stupid, the relationship with the mother or father does not determine if that person is a bad parent. The relationship with the child is what determines that.

[Dude111]

Originally Posted by CMBman

My partner and I have been together for 6 years and we have a 1 year old son. Things are not so good when it comes to sex since the baby was born, which is natural. She's more worried, more tired and I understand all of that.

So to spice things up, I approached a female colleague at work regarding a threesome. I know she's very frisky and would go along with it. She immediately said that she was up for it.

So I thought we could leave our son with the grandparents for the weekend so we could have fun all the 3 of us.

When I told my partner about it, she went mad. She said she couldn't believe I was suggesting such a thing, that I have no respect for her and that it's a disgusting idea.

I dont blame her...... YOUR BASICALLY SAYING YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH HER!!!!!!! - Its quite mean!!

I would buy her some flowers and tell her you were joking!!!


Good luck!!

[alpha_1976]

I don't blame her either - just go and offer sincere apology.

Also how come you propose your colleague for 3some and still hasn't been in bed with her! How do you manage that?

[BonyT]

This is one of those issues that you just really can't bring up lightly... like a "Hey, feel like driving down to the cabin for a long weekend?" kinda thing. I think it'll only work if both partners are into that sort of activity. It's not something a "normal," traditional-style couple can just decide to do on a lark and hope that it'll turn out okay.

[Chowhound]

LOL.. this thread keeps popping up on CD and filters it's way up.


"Suggest a threesome to partner, now she doesn't speak to me."

LOL... that sounds like a script to a Hollywood screenplay for a sitcom.....

You couldn't come up with this shyt on a SNL episode... LOL.....

The shocker being that his wife/GF didn't go along with it... LOL..... I mean really.... is this a shocker... most women aren't down with you bonin another woman right in front of them... LOL..... classic stuff....

[monumentus]

Originally Posted by zentropa

lol

Was this meant to be a reply of some sort?

Originally Posted by scratchie

"Merely suggesting"? HE PROPOSITIONED HIS COWORKER! There's nothing "mere" about it.

Read my post again and slower this time. The "mere" was not applied the the coworker incident. I distinguished clearly between _that_ and his suggesting the encounter to his wife. I very clearly indicated that approaching the co-worker before his wife on this - was an error.

[laina1980]

Originally Posted by CMBman

Oh during our discussion I told her we could have a mfm later if she was interested and she went really mad then, saying that's disgusting and why would she want to have sex with another man besides me, etc.

Obviously if I'm the one suggesting I would want with 2 women.

You are just trying to find excuse to be with other woman and using your partner as a puppet to cover your guilt. What makes it worse is after she told you to basically ?$;? off you still seem persistent in getting your way.

I give it 6 months you will be all alone having to look for 2 women to complete your goal

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by JerZ

Really. How stupid. How can anybody think this is for real?

Especially how dense he was in understanding that it was wrong. It seemed like he never understood what he did wrong.

[PJSaturn]

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