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Some are fakes. Some are just flakes. For reasons we'll never know they'll spell out what they want and, even though you might meet their demands to a T, they will ignore your message.
Keep on doing what your doing. I need some help for us older farts and you are definately helping LOL.
You people act like you can't tell the difference between hook ups and someone wanting a husband/father/real love etc etc.
Dude obviously is talking about p***y and panties geez. I was doing that like 20 years ago so I know how it goes.. fun fun.. while it lasts..... But I do miss it when I read posts like this.
If you want more responses!... read the profile and write something related to them and their profile.. such as .."Wow, i see you really like x type of movies and I'm a huge fan of movie x... have you seen that? Maybe we can check out a movie together?" Tell something about yourself!!!! how you might be a match for them.. Sell yourself.
Read the profile to make sure you are a "fit" to what they are asking for. non smoker/christian/life of the party/outdoors person/ etc...
You mean well, but seeing others results elsewhere means that personal messages don't work for the low return, hence, "copypasta". Look, OLD is all about looks. Period. A gal can post a bunch of garbage about how she loves museums, the zoo, ball games, traveling, etc. It doesn't mean anything, because she likely doesn't do them on her own and odds are her parents are asking when she's going to make cute kids and not about her silly next cruise plans.
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Originally Posted by Gerania
You might have gotten a higher % if you'd told them that they're beautiful.
I thought women wanted something unique in the messages they get?
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Originally Posted by nearnorth
The purpose of OLD is to increase the size of your pool (number of people to ask) not your success rate (% of that number who say yes). If you think dating sites will help your success rate, you are sadly mistaken.
Correct. See my last point.
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Originally Posted by Sommie789
Trust me my friend met some some guys there!
You mean women who are outnumbered by 3-1 or even 10-1 can meet guys if they aren't complete social lepers? Interdasting.
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Originally Posted by pinkydapimp
what your experiencing is the downside to free dating sites. People create profiles but because its free there isnt much of an incentive to use it, so they forget about it, or barely check it.
I really though the downside to OLD profiles was people who are socially inept meeting other socially inept people. Actually, they probably don't meet that often and a study says those who do meet and eventually marry divorce quite a bit, too.
Online dating whether it's okcupid/pof/match/etc. is always difficult up to a certain age range. I think the formula for success is that you have to not only look extremely mainstream, but your persona is also totally bland and unoffensive, too. The majority of people online are not seeking real relationships, mostly just one nighters or sex partners. If you're seeking a real relationship, your pool is going to automatically be reduced by at least 50%. It seems that people who are in their 40s+ do a bit better than those who in their 20s and 30s...but those under 40 who are even remotely non-conventional such as not being white, slim, tall, career-driven, etc. are not going to do so well.
I've been single for an extremely long time, for many years actually, without haven't been asked out by any guys. I have been approached by guys at my gym...but I go to the gym very late night and at odd hours and I don't want some guy at my gym stalking me when I'm just there to relax and run off stress and frustration. When I'm out in public, no guy will approach me, but plenty will look at me wide eyed and startled. It's not like I'm an alien or anything, but because people cannot immediately peg me, they will only stare at me but never say a word.
I'm fit, I'm educated, I dress well, I'm well-mannered, and don't have kids, but I'm not fully white. However, I am very factual and I'm intellectually very sharp and critical of anything that's irrational. I also do not drink alcohol except maybe a handful of drink a year at the most if I'm out with a friend or something. I'm a very specific, quality driven kind of person. I don't mingle with people who aren't smart enough to keep up. It's not like I'm a genius, but I'm too bored with what people talk about since most of it is stuff that lacks any sort of substance and depth. I never seem to meet anyone rational/smart, and when I do, they're always married. And because I don't have kids and I don't want anyone with kids but the majority of guys above 22 years old tend to have kids (at least the location of where I live now), it makes things even harder.
I never fared well on okcupid. Several guys messaged me saying that I'm awesome but remarked that I'm too unconventional and off-beat. I think they say valid things, however, I cannot change myself from being complex to being simple minded and mainstream. Of course, I get my share of rude, inappropriate messages by desperate guys who message every chick. However, the guys that like- the smart, clean cut, manly, fit guys...they tend to only want skinny, conventional, plain, white girls. I cannot blame them for wanting something that they're conditioned to desire, however, it makes me stay single for a long time simply because the other alternative are sleazy sex-driven guys. I think, since I've been single for a really long time, it will stay for longer time to come. I simply don't know what to do.
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Online dating whether it's okcupid/pof/match/etc. is always difficult up to a certain age range. I think the formula for success is that you have to not only look extremely mainstream, but your persona is also totally bland and unoffensive, too. The majority of people online are not seeking real relationships, mostly just one nighters or sex partners. If you're seeking a real relationship, your pool is going to automatically be reduced by at least 50%. It seems that people who are in their 40s+ do a bit better than those who in their 20s and 30s...but those under 40 who are even remotely non-conventional such as not being white, slim, tall, career-driven, etc. are not going to do so well.
I've been single for an extremely long time, for many years actually, without haven't been asked out by any guys. I have been approached by guys at my gym...but I go to the gym very late night and at odd hours and I don't want some guy at my gym stalking me when I'm just there to relax and run off stress and frustration. When I'm out in public, no guy will approach me, but plenty will look at me wide eyed and startled. It's not like I'm an alien or anything, but because people cannot immediately peg me, they will only stare at me but never say a word.
I'm fit, I'm educated, I dress well, I'm well-mannered, and don't have kids, but I'm not fully white. However, I am very factual and I'm intellectually very sharp and critical of anything that's irrational. I also do not drink alcohol except maybe a handful of drink a year at the most if I'm out with a friend or something. I'm a very specific, quality driven kind of person. I don't mingle with people who aren't smart enough to keep up. It's not like I'm a genius, but I'm too bored with what people talk about since most of it is stuff that lacks any sort of substance and depth. I never seem to meet anyone rational/smart, and when I do, they're always married. And because I don't have kids and I don't want anyone with kids but the majority of guys above 22 years old tend to have kids (at least the location of where I live now), it makes things even harder.
I never fared well on okcupid. Several guys messaged me saying that I'm awesome but remarked that I'm too unconventional and off-beat. I think they say valid things, however, I cannot change myself from being complex to being simple minded and mainstream. Of course, I get my share of rude, inappropriate messages by desperate guys who message every chick. However, the guys that like- the smart, clean cut, manly, fit guys...they tend to only want skinny, conventional, plain, white girls. I cannot blame them for wanting something that they're conditioned to desire, however, it makes me stay single for a long time simply because the other alternative are sleazy sex-driven guys. I think, since I've been single for a really long time, it will stay for longer time to come. I simply don't know what to do.
Yeah it's also a age factor too. Like since I'm 21 they might still think i'm in college. So I put that I am 30 on pof and for some reason I got a good amount of women to message me. If I did the same thing put an older age on okcupid It wouldn't matter. That's why I've always wondered about that stupid site okcupid and if they were actually real people. But like people said on okcupid you can hide yourself from viewing profiles so that's part of the reason why I wasn't getting any visitors.
Online dating whether it's okcupid/pof/match/etc. is always difficult up to a certain age range. I think the formula for success is that you have to not only look extremely mainstream, but your persona is also totally bland and unoffensive, too. The majority of people online are not seeking real relationships, mostly just one nighters or sex partners. If you're seeking a real relationship, your pool is going to automatically be reduced by at least 50%. It seems that people who are in their 40s+ do a bit better than those who in their 20s and 30s...but those under 40 who are even remotely non-conventional such as not being white, slim, tall, career-driven, etc. are not going to do so well.
I've been single for an extremely long time, for many years actually, without haven't been asked out by any guys. I have been approached by guys at my gym...but I go to the gym very late night and at odd hours and I don't want some guy at my gym stalking me when I'm just there to relax and run off stress and frustration. When I'm out in public, no guy will approach me, but plenty will look at me wide eyed and startled. It's not like I'm an alien or anything, but because people cannot immediately peg me, they will only stare at me but never say a word.
I'm fit, I'm educated, I dress well, I'm well-mannered, and don't have kids, but I'm not fully white. However, I am very factual and I'm intellectually very sharp and critical of anything that's irrational. I also do not drink alcohol except maybe a handful of drink a year at the most if I'm out with a friend or something. I'm a very specific, quality driven kind of person. I don't mingle with people who aren't smart enough to keep up. It's not like I'm a genius, but I'm too bored with what people talk about since most of it is stuff that lacks any sort of substance and depth. I never seem to meet anyone rational/smart, and when I do, they're always married. And because I don't have kids and I don't want anyone with kids but the majority of guys above 22 years old tend to have kids (at least the location of where I live now), it makes things even harder.
I never fared well on okcupid. Several guys messaged me saying that I'm awesome but remarked that I'm too unconventional and off-beat. I think they say valid things, however, I cannot change myself from being complex to being simple minded and mainstream. Of course, I get my share of rude, inappropriate messages by desperate guys who message every chick. However, the guys that like- the smart, clean cut, manly, fit guys...they tend to only want skinny, conventional, plain, white girls. I cannot blame them for wanting something that they're conditioned to desire, however, it makes me stay single for a long time simply because the other alternative are sleazy sex-driven guys. I think, since I've been single for a really long time, it will stay for longer time to come. I simply don't know what to do.
Looks like I need to take a trip to Arizona. Plenty of single women out there. what your going through is very similar to what I go through in NY.
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