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it's just symantics. is there really a difference between "hiding something" and being private? it's still information you don't readily want to disclose to others for some reason or another, and it creates a little mystery too.
i too am a private person and have learned to appreciate the benefits of selectively sharing information. like fb, i don't have an account. am i hiding something? no, here's my IG or google my name, read my bio online and articles i've written, etc... but not everyone comes clean right? like talking about your past relationships, trauma or brushes with the law.
let's be frank, all adults hide something. it just that somethings are easier to hide than others, and you can't hide your physical appearance if you are interested in dating and having a relationship with others. that is just stupid and you are fooling no one else but yourself.
commit to self improvement, be your best self and give it your best shot.
it's just symantics. is there really a difference between "hiding something" and being private? it's still information you don't readily want to disclose to others for some reason or another, and it creates a little mystery too.
i too am a private person and have learned to appreciate the benefits of selectively sharing information. like fb, i don't have an account. am i hiding something? no, here's my IG or google my name, read my bio online and articles i've written, etc...
I don't have Instagram or Twitter. I do have a FB profile, but my page is set to private.
I'm pretty transparent, though. I have written hundreds of articles and I have Googled myself and I'm around. The way I see it, there's no need to "hide," but who the heck has time to constantly be tweeting and all that? I tried Twitter briefly...read lots of "ZOMG you wouldn't believe what my cat just coughed up" tweets...yeah, not stuff I need to know, LOL! (Not saying there's anything wrong with it...but by the same token, I don't see that it's "hiding" something if one isn't into that.)
Private means some information is selectively shared based on trust. We all have our reasons for keeping certain aspects of our lives private, and those are for us.
Selectively sharing information is not a form of "kidding" one's self into believing the world won't conform to how we want. I'm not actively dating right now, but I accept that if a prospective love interest puts a higher priority on knowing what my body looks like than knowing me as a person, that individual is not for me. I'm comfortable with this decision, and the end result could lead to the prospect could have the whole package deal if our worlds come together. Or, the end result could lead me to being single indefinitely. I get this and accept it, and fortunately for me, love myself and my life enough that I'm ok with it.
We all have our priorities in the dating world. Mine is to be appreciated for who I am as a person rather than be judged over physical attributes. I'm not overweight or obese, so that isn't where my argument is coming from.
Private means some information is selectively shared based on trust. We all have our reasons for keeping certain aspects of our lives private, and those are for us.
Selectively sharing information is not a form of "kidding" one's self into believing the world won't conform to how we want. I'm not actively dating right now, but I accept that if a prospective love interest puts a higher priority on knowing what my body looks like than knowing me as a person, that individual is not for me. I'm comfortable with this decision, and the end result could lead to the prospect could have the whole package deal if our worlds come together. Or, the end result could lead me to being single indefinitely. I get this and accept it, and fortunately for me, love myself and my life enough that I'm ok with it.
We all have our priorities in the dating world. Mine is to be appreciated for who I am as a person rather than be judged over physical attributes. I'm not overweight or obese, so that isn't where my argument is coming from.
thank you for that thoughtful clarification. i appreciate a woman of depth too.
time to roll my azz out of bed, have a happy turkey day.
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The way I see it, there's no need to "hide," but who the heck has time to constantly be tweeting and all that? I tried Twitter briefly...read lots of "ZOMG you wouldn't believe what my cat just coughed up" tweets...yeah, not stuff I need to know, LOL! (Not saying there's anything wrong with it...but by the same token, I don't see that it's "hiding" something if one isn't into that.)
