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You're with a guy with whom you really connect and are completely happy with but he doesn't care to get married. He wants to spend the rest of his life with you but just doesn't believe in the legal process of marriage.
Or
A man with whom you're not as happy and connected with but professes his love and want to marry and spend the rest of his life with you. You love him but aren't as in love with him as you are the man whom doesn't care to marry.
Please stick to the 2 options and don't use hypotheticals. Its either option 1 or 2.
This is a no-brainer. I chose the first option. We've decided to get married for practical reasons -- it's still easier for spouses to make medical decisions, have legal rights, merge finances, etc. and we each want to be sure the other is empowered to do that. Otherwise, we'd probably be content to go on shacking up forever. We're both 45 and neither of us has been married, so obviously neither of us is chomping at the bit to do so. We got our marriage license this morning.
Please stick to the 2 options and don't use hypotheticals. Its either option 1 or 2.
Yeah, cause that's how real life works. Impossible for women to just find a normal guy that doesn't have some weird marriage hangup and that they actually want to be with.
For the life of me, I can never understand how a person, man or woman, could choose to be with someone they weren't that crazy about, just for the benefit of marriage, money, prestige, etc. I would slowly die inside...
This is a no-brainer. I chose the first option. We've decided to get married for practical reasons -- it's still easier for spouses to make medical decisions, have legal rights, merge finances, etc. and we each want to be sure the other is empowered to do that. Otherwise, we'd probably be content to go on shacking up forever. We're both 45 and neither of us has been married, so obviously neither of us is chomping at the bit to do so. We got our marriage license this morning.
Well I ask because I have seen many scenarios where a woman is willing to leave or give a man an ultimatum with who they are completely happy and in love with just because he has yet to propose or is unwilling to get married for someone who "is willing to marry me". I never understood that line of thinking.
Yeah, cause that's how real life works. Impossible for women to just find a normal guy that doesn't have some weird marriage hangup and that they actually want to be with.
This is my thinking. Realistically, I wouldn't chose either. It's like being with someone, and you connect and have great emotional intimacy, but the sex is horrible. Or the sex is great, but everything else is horrible. Both of those aren't ideal. But it is possible to find a partner you sexually connect with, and have emotional intimacy with.
Well I ask because I have seen many scenarios where a woman is willing to leave or give a man an ultimatum with who they are completely happy and in love with just because he has yet to propose or is unwilling to get married for someone who "is willing to marry me". I never understood that line of thinking.
Well it's simple. In those cases there is usually an indication that the guy is not 100% committed to the woman, not just the idea of marriage. The woman knows this, and these couples don't stay together.
When that commitment is demonstrably real, and the relationship is solid, then I don't know a single woman who would leave that situation for one where she was not in love, just to get married.
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