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Wow, what a topic.
If I remember the original post right, you agreed that she would stay home and you would work. Now, midstream, you don't feel that she does enough at home. I'm confused.
Sleeping till noon seems a little much to me but still, you agreed to her staying home. If you love her enough to be thinking of marrying her, sit down with her and discuss your life together...the present as well as what you expect for your future.
If the relationship is worth it to both of you..you'll work it out together. Only the two of you know what you're willing to live with...talk to each other and really listen.
I love her, and would like to take the next step with her, but I feel like I shouldn't. What do you think?
ok from my experiance personally, i have not gone to college. I was a nanny and alot of jobs fell through because i was so depressed doing it, then i got back into accounting. I did alot of temp work to get "recent experiance" and i was very depressed because the companies wouldn't keep me after the job was over. finally i got the job i have now, i work for a small company and i go to work everyday and work as hard as i can and it feels great!
Maybe she hasn't found what she really loves to do yet. I DO NOT THINK SHES USING YOU!!!! there were so many months i didn't have a job and i felt SO GUILTY and i almost wanted to give up and just have a kid and be a stay-at-home mom. but it worked out for me. i actually prayed about it. (even if your not that religious) you can still pray.
It takes two incomes to have some sense of security. If she won't help out find someone who will! Everyone would like a free ride. Is that what shes really looking for?
So ... what's the deal here? Do you want her to work or not? If you are willing to work and pay all the bills, then I don't understand what you are complaining about.
I agree. Either change the situation or stop moanin' about it..
Wow - for most of history women didn't have jobs - things have changed - do women have to work coz men simply can't provide anymore or want to? For centuries up until the middle of 20th - women didn't work - now women have to and mens fault - geez times have changed
Are you Rip Van Winkle or something? Just waking up to life in the 21st century?
They're not married. People get married because they are in love and found a partner to share their life with. Even if it's ok if she's not officially working, she should be doing her part domestically. That is her job.
I am 24 years old and my girlfriend and I moved together about 2 years ago. Since then, I have held a steady job and made decent money, and she has found it difficult to keep a job for more than a month without getting upset and quitting. She has found it is too expensive for her to go back to school, and has recently asked me if I would pay her bills if she stays at home and does housework. I thought originally that this would work well, as then we would have time together when I got home, but she hasn't been doing more than an hour or two of housework a day while I am at work, she sleeps until noon and complains about motivation issues. I love her, and would like to take the next step with her, but I feel like I shouldn't. What do you think?
Kick her out..she is lazy, and if she loved you too she would try
She just loves the free room and board
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