Overheard my wife's conversation at a party (man, college, jealous)

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Greg7L

No I'm not going to divorce her but that doesn't mean I'm not pissed because I am.

But like why would she be OK with that guy but not with me who also happens to be her husband?!

Try putting something large and phallic up there and see how you like it. Bad back door sex is burning, blinding, awful pain. It's not something women are falling all over themselves to try, believe it or not. Maybe she tried it once and hated it. It doesn't mean she'll always hate it, but if you stew and sulk about it that doesn't help anything.

[hawaiiancoconut]

Originally Posted by Greg7L

No I'm not going to divorce her but that doesn't mean I'm not pissed because I am.

But like why would she be OK with that guy but not with me who also happens to be her husband?!

Have you asked/tried?

Btw: Id be upset, too. Its not a conversation you would have at a party.

[ellie]

I think she handled things correctly. She's married to you, now. That guy sounds like a cad and I'm sure she regrets knowing him.

If you really love her, just let it go. Everyone has made a few mistakes.

[himain]

Ask her if she wants anal. If she says she's not into it-tell her you heard she was and let her respond.

[RedZin]

Originally Posted by Greg7L

No I'm not going to divorce her but that doesn't mean I'm not pissed because I am.

But like why would she be OK with that guy but not with me who also happens to be her husband?!

Because it was painful when she tried it before and she hates it?

Because she never was able to do it with him either and he was joking with her about it when you overheard them?

You don't even know if she actually did it with him and you're angry. Jesus.

What if she did and she got hurt? Was in pain for weeks? Needed medical attention?

You still angry that she might have with him?

Get real.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by himain

Ask her if she wants anal. If she says she's not into it-tell her you heard she was and let her respond.

"I heard you like anal" ... just the thing a wife wants to hear from her husband.

[himain]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

"I heard you like anal" ... just the thing a wife wants to hear from her husband.

LOL Well then he can lead into what he overheard...BTW they are married..If he can't say that to her, then there's bigger issues here..

[Greg7L]

Originally Posted by himain

Ask her if she wants anal. If she says she's not into it-tell her you heard she was and let her respond.

But that's the thing! I HAVE asked on a bunch of times in the past and she said no and that she's not like that.

[himain]

Originally Posted by Greg7L

But that's the thing! I HAVE asked on a bunch of times in the past and she said no and that she's not like that.

Well, then there's your opportunity to say "Hey I heard you speaking with Mr BigDick about blah blah blah" Call her out on it

[Butterflyfish]

What difference does it make what/if she did in her past? She doesn't want to. Her answer is "No". Get over it.

You aren't entitled to anything from her that she doesn't want to do.