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Old 01-07-2015, 09:28 AM
 
Location: CT
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Last Friday, I got into a mini argument via text message with the guy I’ve written about on here before. He accused me of being the reason why our boss wouldn’t get back to him. He said he just finds it funny that after we talk & he asks about me, he isn’t answering texts. He then started to be overdramatic and say he was going to quit the company (it’s a rec job/not his real income). When he was done with work he texted me implying him to call. I didn’t answer. He texted me again. He said he was going to call the owner and see what happens, but I have to look at it from his point of view. Sure enough, nothing was said on the phone call. But he told me that this dinner on Saturday (with our work friends/he’s bringing a co-worker) is a test. He’ll believe that I’m not jealous when he sees it, etc. He then implied we wouldn’t talk all week until the dinner. So, I was upset bc at this point I think he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and there’s no way I can pretend he does come the dinner next weekend. I said we’d talk after, and he started questioning me. Implying that I don’t know that we will. So, needless to say, it was a rough weekend.


Well, Sunday night, Mr. We’re not gonna talk all week sends me a text message to tell me he’s really sick. I asked him what was wrong and he said everything. He called me and told me he was throwing up at work, his body was aching all over, and he was on his way home. I asked if he needed anything and wanted me to come see him. He said “I won’t say no”. I offered to get him anything, and he asked for ginger ale.


[Here’s question 1- does he realize that he texted me when he was sick? He said we weren’t going to talk, but yet, his instincts were to text me?!]


Once there, we cuddled a bit, and he got a little physical with me, but no kissing. We watched some shows on MTV and movies together. He asked if I’d come back Monday after my job interview and stay with him for the day. So, I did. We laid in bed, took a nap, and he got me REALLY into a show that’s on Netflix. No cuddling or anything. He would make cute comments here and there, and occasionally stroke my leg, but that’s it. Not much in the way of physical touching today either. We did kiss goodbye when I left, and he told me he was glad I came over, and thanked me for spending the time with him.


So, is it all about the little things with him? I know he has severe anxiety and I do as well, but why does he seem to run from the obvious? I’m also fearing for whatever reason he doesn’t have feelings for me bc he didn’t act on them, but I know he was sick. How do others deal with a relationship where it’s the little things that seem to make the most impact?
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Old 01-07-2015, 10:04 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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If a person can't be bothered to take care of the little things, how can they be trusted with the big things???
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Old 01-07-2015, 10:30 AM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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Hmm...Not sure why you'd want to hang out & cuddle with someone exhibiting flu symptoms...
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Old 01-07-2015, 10:44 AM
 
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Hmm...Not sure why you'd want to hang out & cuddle with someone exhibiting flu symptoms...
I was thinking the same thing. Have you started puking yet?
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Old 01-07-2015, 10:58 AM
 
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He is achy, vomiting, flu infested, yet he is ready for some action! That's cute, cuddling in the fever saturated sheets, with the essence of stomach acids in the air...sahhhhweeet
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Old 01-07-2015, 11:55 AM
 
Location: california
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Get plenty of rest and maintain your vitamin C ,,seriously .
Drink lots of good water" not sodas "
Take care of your self and stay healthy and be more careful with your relationship. love him like a patient not a lover and he should respect that.
your not his mother and even so you can be of no help if you get sick too.
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