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No it doesn't. CS doesn't preclude someone from also collecting welfare. With CS you just pay 20-50% of your income to the custodial parent, but welfare is statutorily given when you make less than $30K.
What I'm saying is, if your child's mother is collecting welfare for your child, the county will come after you for reimbursement, based on your income.
What I'm saying is, if your child's mother is collecting welfare for your child, the county will come after you for reimbursement, based on your income.
You can't "get someone" to consider adoption. She either considers it, or she doesn't. Her choice. OP can discuss anything he likes, but ultimately, it's not going to be up to him. These are among the very good reasons it's unwise to leave contraception 100% in someone else's hands.
OP, sorry. DNA test is the only way you're gonna know. It's a good thing you're "good friends" with this person, eh?
You can't "get someone" to consider adoption. She either considers it, or she doesn't. Her choice. OP can discuss anything he likes, but ultimately, it's not going to be up to him. These are among the very good reasons it's unwise to leave contraception 100% in someone else's hands.
OP, sorry. DNA test is the only way you're gonna know. It's a good thing you're "good friends" with this person, eh?
This.
I have told my son so many times he can repeat it in his sleep "Your two decisions are whether or not to have sex, and whether or not to wear a condom. That's it. Everything else is outside of your control. So unless you want a baby, ALWAYS wear a condom."
Everywhere. They will file for paternity and child support. The mother doesn't have anything to do with it.
Child support is paid when there is a custodial parent and has nothing to do with collecting welfare reimbursements. My question was where do they collect for welfare from the noncustodial parent.
Ex: Guy and girl make $15K each. Girl gets pregnant and now qualifies for WIC, SNAP, EITC, child credits, Medicaid, Pell grants, free school lunches, head start, and child care (where available). Guy pays $3K in CS. According to the other poster the county will also come after the guy for the $10K+ in welfare bennies.
Child support is paid when there is a custodial parent and has nothing to do with collecting welfare reimbursements. My question was where do they collect for welfare from the noncustodial parent.
Ex: Guy and girl make $15K each. Girl gets pregnant and now qualifies for WIC, SNAP, EITC, child credits, Medicaid, Pell grants, free school lunches, head start, and child care (where available). Guy pays $3K in CS. According to the other poster the county will also come after the guy for the $10K+ in welfare bennies.
No, if a woman on welfare chooses not to file for child support, the state will on her behalf to try to recoup their losses.
But only if she doesn't go after him for support. You're right he doesn't have to pay twice.
TenorSax said "be there to support her throughout the pregnancy" and then "After the child is born, make sure it is yours ...". So he has this obligation before knowing the truth? There are pre-natal paternity tests that can be done 2-3 months into the term.
Yes, that is what I said because it COULD be his kid. if it IS, then he would probably feel like crap because he didn't support a kid that was his beforehand. What are you saying?! Don't do ANYTHING until the exact moment that he knows, when he could have already been taking care of his business?? So you would be okay with NOT helping a pregnant mother of a kid that may or may not be yours, and then later you find out it IS yours but you haven't a thing for it? So now you haven't been there throughout the pregancy, haven't called, haven't done anything only to find out later that the kid actually IS yours. If that's okay with you, fine! Do you and move around.
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