Is a dirty house a dealbreaker? (dating, marriage, girl, kids)
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Would you date/continue a relationship with someone who has a filthy house? I'm not talking about general clutter or "lived in," but dirty dishes sitting in the living areas, visibly dirty floor, etc.
I think for myself, it would be a dealbreaker. I'm sometimes shocked at how dirty seemingly functional adults can be.
That's a deal breaker. I always thought of myself as being messy. Though my messy is mainly dust and clutter. But after my brother moved back in, I see what that actually is, and it's not attractive and annoying when you have to clean up after people. If you're seriously seeing one another, then marriage or living together is probably next, and I don't wanna live with someone I would have to clean up after, and had no sense of clean.
Then you wonder what their hygiene is like. I think of Ross in Friends, dating the filthy girl with food, and rats in her apartment. lol
It's a deal breaker. I would hope that a relationship might develop and I don't want to be babysitter and housekeeper for a total slob.
Besides that there is something wrong in the head of someone who lives surrounded by filth. They can't get their life together. I don't even want to pick up after someone who is untidy, but at least the untidy person isn't usually mentally ill; or at least not mentally ill in a way that shows up as filth.
If a person is living in filth and garbage, what is their personal hygiene like?
Last edited by oregonwoodsmoke; 02-26-2015 at 08:17 AM..
Yes, yes and yes! I actually married someone like you are describing. I chalked it up to being a bachelor. Twenty + years later I am losing my mind. Someone that doesn't pick up after themselves gets worse with age. Pile that on top of your mess and any kids that you may have.
Would you date/continue a relationship with someone who has a filthy house? I'm not talking about general clutter or "lived in," but dirty dishes sitting in the living areas, visibly dirty floor, etc.
I think for myself, it would be a dealbreaker. I'm sometimes shocked at how dirty seemingly functional adults can be.
Although I'm something of a neat freak, this wouldn't be an immediate deal breaker. What matters is whether they're always like this or whether they just go through phases. Some people just don't get around to cleaning cause they're too tired from work and other stuff. Now, if they're like this even when you know they have free time, that's a bad sign. I've known people like this. They're actually comfortable living in a messy home. The sink will always have dishes piled up and the person will only wash what they need at a given moment. You come over and ask for a glass of water. They'll reach into the sink, wash just the one glass, and pour you some water. But the rest of the items in the sink will go untouched. That would definitely bother me cause I'd worry that I'd always be cleaning up after them if things ever got serious.
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