Is my boyfriend getting bored? (guy, separate, sex, romantic)
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Do you two do anything besides just sex? Sounds like a fwb relationship to me.
This is what occurred to me, too. I think the OP has a point where she says he was in her neighborhood, close by, and knew she was home, but didn't stop by after seeing his friends, plus, he lied to her about studying the following night.
If he were truly into her, he would have wanted to see her at least one of those nights. Having hobbies and friends isn't the issue. The issue is that he just isn't that into her. I'm not saying he should revolve around her. But having two weekend nights relatively free but not wanting to hang out with an SO is unusual for a relationship that's not even 6 months along.
Sounds like you need to be "busy" with something the next time he wants to get together. Of course he's going to get a little bored if you are always sitting at home doing nothing, waiting on him. And that's not healthy for you!!! You really need to develop at least one hobby that you are really into, and some interests of your own, and also some girls nights out. Can be anything, but you have to pique his interest a bit at this point.
This guy is probably happy to have a girlfriend at the end of the day. Maybe that's enough for him. Since you're both young and still in school, perhaps he doesn't want it to be a full time job.
You have two choices: accept the status quo or move on.
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Originally Posted by CarbonCountyLiving
So you do nothing with him but cuddle and watch TV, whereas he goes rock climbing and stuff with his friends.
It sounds like he might be bored because you are being boring. Maybe he is sick of sitting in your apartment all the time.
Ask him if he is bored, and find out stuff that you can do together for fun.
This, go do stuff OP!!! I wouldn't stand for a moment (Well, I once did, but not anymore) dating someone that wanted to stay in and watch movies and stuff when there is a life to be lived.
He's probably out playing the field. And why shouldn't he be?? He's young, he has no clue what he wants/likes/needs yet as far as relationships go yet. Give him some room and go do your own thing. I know everyone's saying that but girl it's true. What do YOU like to do? Go do that without him. If he calls and you're not busy when he wants to get up together, GREAT. But if you are busy, forget it.
Boyfriends, partners, playmates are only the icing on the cake of your life. Don't try to make them the substance that holds you together or you'll eventually crumble.
He does sound like he is blowing you off. What I suggest to you is to try and work on yourself a bit, new makeup, work out, and let him contact you from now on. Maybe even start talking to some other men. Don't dump him, if it's gonna fizzle out, let it fizzle. A loving boyfriend ramps up the excitement, the intimacy, even after half a year. Don't settle for anything less than to be treated like a goddess.
This morning, he sounded like he wanted to do something outside tomorrow because it will be nice. We never hang out in daylight. So I asked him if he would like to go hiking and he told me he would rather sleep. Literally all we do is have sex and cuddle. We are adorable when together but we do not do activities together. It hurt when he said he would rather sleep. Then he came up with excuses why we shouldn't hike.
I would bet $1000 if our climbing wall were open at our college (it is closed due to spring break) he would be climbing tomorrow.
He also said he wants to spend all his free time rock climbing so he can get better. Whichc means it's just sex and cuddling for us.
This morning, he sounded like he wanted to do something outside tomorrow because it will be nice. We never hang out in daylight. So I asked him if he would like to go hiking and he told me he would rather sleep. Literally all we do is have sex and cuddle. We are adorable when together but we do not do activities together. It hurt when he said he would rather sleep. Then he came up with excuses why we shouldn't hike.
I would bet $1000 if our climbing wall were open at our college (it is closed due to spring break) he would be climbing tomorrow.
He also said he wants to spend all his free time rock climbing so he can get better. Whichc means it's just sex and cuddling for us.
This is not a boyfriend... sounds like just a FB to me. Don't kid yourself.
Men get attached through DOING ACTIVITIES together, not what happens in the bedroom. Not trying to be harsh but if that is all y'all have together its not enough for a relationship.... sooner you learn this, the better off you will be.
Agreed -- I'm sorry, OP, but he is not your boyfriend. It doesn't matter if you're adorable when you're together. You're not a couple. You're just hooking up. Your options are to accept that reality, or find someone who better meets your needs. He's not likely to morph into what you want.
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