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I'm in my 40's and I would consider myself "old school" and would pay for most of the first dates. I'm assuming most men around your age would probably be of a similar mindset. Offering to pay half is fine, but again, not at first. If were seeing each other for a while I don't mind having her chipping in or alternating who pays.
I guess if you offered to help pay, it would be a good will gesture, can't go wrong with that. In my humble opinion, of course.
I'm in my 40's, and I have always paid for the first few dates, but like Chowhound I'm also more old school. Once we've gone out more than a handful of times it usually works out to be who picks up the check first (which more often than not is me).
Offer to pay, it's polite. If he declines get whatever you guys do afterwards (drinks, movie).
Most guys our age pay though, my husband would have broken my hand if I insisted.
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You can always leave the "pay for 1/2 line" to be passive in telling the guy you aren't really interested in him. Most men in their 40's are going to assume that if they ask you out, that they are going to pay.
I'm in my 40's and I would consider myself "old school" and would pay for most of the first dates. I'm assuming most men around your age would probably be of a similar mindset. Offering to pay half is fine, but again, not at first. If were seeing each other for a while I don't mind having her chipping in or alternating who pays.
I guess if you offered to help pay, it would be a good will gesture, can't go wrong with that. In my humble opinion, of course.
If I'm going to dinner with a new man, I usually just offer to split the check. If he says no, I don't argue or insist on paying for my half. What I will do is say something like "Ok, the next time we go for drinks/coffee/ etc, it's on me"
I agree with this. Offer, but don't insist. If you go to a movie or for a drink after dinner that is when I would insist that he let me pay. When I first met my husband he was very impressed that I offered to pay for the movie.
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