Marry before move-in? Or move-in before marry? (dating, how to, married)
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Mom says it's NOT old fashioned to get married first.
-This way you know you really love the person.
-If you get into fights, you're more likely to work at them whereas if you were just living with someone, you could more easily walk out on the relationship because you can't deal with their little-things-they-do-you-can't-stand.
-She also said "moving-in is the number one way to break up a relationship". She moved-in, they were eventually married by state because they were living together long enough, but the relationship never lasted.
I think girls should definitely want to marry first, that way they don't have to worry about that "why buy the milk when the cow is free?" situation. Guys have a girl to sleep with, cook, do the laundry and all that less glamourous stuff that comes with marriage. If a girl moves in, for some guys they get the cow for free and don't have to fully commit. In a way, I feel like if the girl moves in, it's like saying ohok I'm not good enough to marry, so I can settle for half a commitment.
I know this isn't always the case, but IMO, it's a good way for the girl to know the dude really loves her. (and a way for the guy to know too). I have noticed, some, relationships have worked when they moved-in first.
shack up does not promote better and more stable marriage. in fact it creates the reverse.
people that do it are more prone to break up and quicker. shackers do not divorce less.
every time you use that glue gun (sex) and change your mind (breakup) the bond gets weaker.
americans know how to have sex but no longer know how to stick together, 50 years of ignorance.
bout 1963 we swerved off the freeway and wrapped around a tree.
america the flaky.
Doesn't matter how old I am. It's just a question hah. and if you have a feeling that something "won't work out" then you probably shouldn't marry em right.
Doesn't matter how old I am. It's just a question hah. and if you have a feeling that something "won't work out" then you probably shouldn't marry em right.
Why do you think people back in the day stayed married for 40 years? Ain't noone movin in before they tied the knot! Stuck it together through little problems cause the love was probably there.
Move in first, this isn't the 50's anymore. If you can't live together unmarried you sure won't be able to married. Fake fronts eventually wear off in 24 hour/7 day a week situations. You can't hide the real self like when dating and living apart. I thought I knew people pretty well until I was around them a lot. Man was I wrong. I didn't have a clue. YMMV Good luck! Rugged
Maybe...but also...I think when you move in you get to find out how this person is day and night. Things that he does that will irk you.
Moods...how he handles bills, cleaning, cooking, ect. You will meet the real him. And get to decide...do you want him or not. Marry him and find out he pays his bills late...he's freaken lazy...the place is a pig stye... he picks his nose and flings it...he doesn't wipe his butt good and has skid marks...he drinks alot...goes out and doesn't return for hours...when you ask where he has been he says" nuna yer damn business".
Last edited by Raena77; 12-11-2009 at 09:11 PM..
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You can find that out by spending time with the person. You should be spending that much time with them before you marry anyway. You'll know if someone's fake or doesn't clean by hangin out with him/her, seeing how they interact with friends, family, you alone. And honestly, everyone has quirks about them that you're not gonna like. And If you can't take some of the cons that inevitably come with the pros, then you won't be able to be with anyone.
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