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Originally Posted by Bearsdad
I recently started dating someone who I have known as a friend before we started dating. I am 55 and she is 40. In the past, I have dated much younger women and she knows that. It used to be a joke with her until we started seeing each other. My problem is this chick constantly accuses me of being unfathful, and I am not. She constantly busts my chops about my "twenty somethings" as she calls them. She has mentioned the fact she thinks I lead two lives...ours together and another she knows nothing about when I am at work in the city.
I am doing nothing wrong. I work/commute 10-14 hrs a day and if not working/commuting, I am with her. She goes thru my phone at night looking at calls, texts and pics and if she finds something that interests/bothers her, she will flat ask about it. She thinks it's wierd that 20-30 yo women like/relate to me moreso than women my age and it is obvious she feels threatened. She has no reason and I have told her this.
She works with her ex boyfriend and I say nothing about it. I know she still has feelings for him because he dumped her and she was devastated because she talked to me about it before we dated. I strongly suspect if he wanted to give it another try she would dump me in a second, because he is her "dream guy" and I know I am not. She works late and I don't question it. I work late and she accuses me of being out with another woman.
I have never given this chick any reason not to trust me and I have never been doubted in any other relationship I have been in. If I am with someone I am with them and I am not a cheater. If I am tired of someone or it's not working, I make it known and leave the relationship.
I am not quite sure how to deal with this situation. It seems like the more I do to make it better the worse it gets. I have cut ties with my younger women friends and it still isn't good enough. I have never left a relationship because I wasn't trusted, but I am considering it. Someone suggested SHE is doing something wrong and is accusing me to throw suspicion off herself. I doubt this, as she is the kind of woman who I would think would tell me just to get lost.
Have you ever been thru this and what did you do or what was the outcome?
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First of all women are not "chicks".
After that all I can wonder is why you would stay with a woman who does not trust you.
Quite a waste of time in my opinion and I myself would never stay with someone who does not trust me or who I do not trust.
The last part is, why would you allow someone to dictate who you can be friends with?
I choose my own friends my Husband does not choose my friends because I am a mature, adult woman who can make her own decisions without asking permission to do anything.