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I've been dating this guy for a little over a month, nothing official yet. The whole time he has expressed to me that he thinks I'm too good for him, and seems to question my motives a lot. I don't give him reason to, I think it's just past experiences he's had with women.
Recently he told me that I'm not affectionate enough and that he doesn't feel wanted/needed by me. So, I made an effort to step up my game in demonstrating to him that I do care about him and want him in my life. I didn't think that I was being cold or unaffectionate in the first place, though.
Anyway, since I've started acting more affectionate, like he requested, he has been pulling away! I haven't heard from him in three days now, when we're usually communicating daily.
What gives?
"Major insecurities", "overly jealous", and "Very distrustful" are all the flags that go off in my head when I read this. I've never seen relationships, starting out like this, end well unless there is a MAJOR turn around. I hope, if my intuition is correct about him, that he is able to fix these problems or he may drive you away.
I've been dating this guy for a little over a month, nothing official yet. The whole time he has expressed to me that he thinks I'm too good for him, and seems to question my motives a lot. I don't give him reason to, I think it's just past experiences he's had with women.
Recently he told me that I'm not affectionate enough and that he doesn't feel wanted/needed by me. So, I made an effort to step up my game in demonstrating to him that I do care about him and want him in my life. I didn't think that I was being cold or unaffectionate in the first place, though.
Anyway, since I've started acting more affectionate, like he requested, he has been pulling away! I haven't heard from him in three days now, when we're usually communicating daily.
What gives?
He needs a bit of emotional maturity and growing up to do. Sounds like he wants someone to validate how great he is. Clingy, player, kid, childish comes to mind. Stava, you need someone who you don't have to 'fix' or be overly cautious with.. someone to have fun and enjoy your life with. I get no one's life is perfect, but people cannot chose partners solely based on filling in their unmet personal needs. Kinda a blessing for him to pull away actually.. if you really think about it. (No drama)
I've been dating this guy for a little over a month, nothing official yet. The whole time he has expressed to me that he thinks I'm too good for him, and seems to question my motives a lot. I don't give him reason to, I think it's just past experiences he's had with women.
Recently he told me that I'm not affectionate enough and that he doesn't feel wanted/needed by me. So, I made an effort to step up my game in demonstrating to him that I do care about him and want him in my life. I didn't think that I was being cold or unaffectionate in the first place, though.
Anyway, since I've started acting more affectionate, like he requested, he has been pulling away! I haven't heard from him in three days now, when we're usually communicating daily.
What gives?
When a man tells you he is not good enough for you or that you are too good for him, believe him. He knows more about himself than you do. In some ways, it is a plea for sympathy to get poor little old me more attention. It also might indicate that he just doesn't know what he wants, as in a commitment.
He needs a bit of emotional maturity and growing up to do. Sounds like he wants someone to validate how great he is. Clingy, player, kid, childish comes to mind. Stava, you need someone who you don't have to 'fix' or be overly cautious with.. someone to have fun and enjoy your life with. I get no one's life is perfect, but people cannot chose partners solely based on filling in their unmet personal needs. Kinda a blessing for him to pull away actually.. if you really think about it. (No drama)
You're right, it is a blessing. I think I liked the idea of him, but not the real him.
When a man tells you he is not good enough for you or that you are too good for him, believe him. He knows more about himself than you do. In some ways, it is a plea for sympathy to get poor little old me more attention. It also might indicate that he just doesn't know what he wants, as in a commitment.
Move on from this guy, he isn't the one.
It's funny because we went out a couple of times to places where people knew him, and nobody seemed to respect him very much. It was like, "Oh great, THIS guy". That was the vibe I got. I think he's just a loser, despite his respected job title.
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