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Im sorry, no offense but i think more people are answering based on what sounds good then reality. The reality is financial security and nesting is a biological truth among gals. I don't think our sisters are being 100% honest.
According to the national Center for Health Statistics, the woman files two-thirds of divorce cases. A more amazing statistic is that when the couple are college-educated, divorces initiated by the wife is a whopping 90-percent! What's more interesting that for the past one-hundred years the primary filer has been the woman. The divorce rate began climbing at a drastic rate in the 70s. This statistic correlates with the fact that beginning in 1969, states began adopting "no fault" divorce laws and by 1985, all states had such a law in place.
The "no-fault" divorce allowed a couple to divorce due to irreconcilable differences. Prior to these laws, adultery or extreme cruelty had to be proven for a divorce to be granted.
In the top 10 reasons why gals divorced was because:
Im sorry, no offense but i think more people are answering based on what sounds good then reality. The reality is financial security and nesting is a biological truth among gals. I don't think our sisters are being 100% honest.
According to the national Center for Health Statistics, the woman files two-thirds of divorce cases. A more amazing statistic is that when the couple are college-educated, divorces initiated by the wife is a whopping 90-percent! What's more interesting that for the past one-hundred years the primary filer has been the woman. The divorce rate began climbing at a drastic rate in the 70s. This statistic correlates with the fact that beginning in 1969, states began adopting "no fault" divorce laws and by 1985, all states had such a law in place.
The "no-fault" divorce allowed a couple to divorce due to irreconcilable differences. Prior to these laws, adultery or extreme cruelty had to be proven for a divorce to be granted.
In the top 10 reasons why gals divorced was because:
Got a link? I'd like to use it. (I Read several papers and didnt find it)
Been there done that. Once when I was dating a guy and later when I married the same guy. He was in a business with a lot of layoffs. I had enough money at the time so I don't see why that would be abnormal.
I was situated the same way and I was so frustrated to be in a field with constant layoffs over a 10 year period. My focus now is to remain in a stable field like I am now and only transition to jobs that are stable so I can avoid layoffs and continue to save money.
Im sorry, no offense but i think more people are answering based on what sounds good then reality. The reality is financial security and nesting is a biological truth among gals. I don't think our sisters are being 100% honest.
Another reality is that, dependent upon a given couple's circumstances, financial security isn't dependent upon both parties' employment.
In my situation, for example, we've already determined that we are able to live on one income, my spouse's, while I am completing graduate school. In the future, when I am back working, we would be able to live on my one income should he experience a time period where he is not employed.
Given that he is supporting our household while I am in school, I don't have a problem supporting our household in the future, should the instance arise.
Financial security is necessary for EVERYONE, not just "gals." And we "gals" are also capable of seeing to our own financial security, and the financial security of our households. But financial security doesn't always necessitate both parties earning a paycheck, either. It really depends on the household, individuals' income, cost of living factors, etc. You're assuming that a single-income household is by definition financially unstable, which is not necessarily the case.
Having this issue now, and going through it, I see both sides of the coin. On one hand, he's a veteran with PTSD. He was active duty, and there was a time we lived overseas and dependents couldn't work. I was unemployed, but in school and did 100% at home - he didn't want for anything. I took care of his uniforms, all the meals, the whole house was clean and taken care of. I even took care of the vehicles and the yard, fixed the mower, and when the car had to be dropped off for all day service and had no one to drop it off with me, I dropped it off alone and walked home. Walked back to pick it up. At one point, I even took the liberty to fix it myself. I worked out everyday, took care of pets, you name it, I did it. He did nothing but work, and that was fine.
So now that he's unemployed, he hates it. Lay offs. But he admitted there were a couple months he just "didn't want to work" so it's hard not to want to walk at times. But going thru PTSD and depression, I try to be understanding. Now I work, and the debt accumulates, and my patience is wearing thin. Esp when I work and come home, he's done 0% and tells me how he's had a lazy day, and asks me "What's for dinner?" after I've been working over 10 hours. But then he was diagnosed with Leukemia, and things got bad. He's finally coming back from that, and doing his best to get a job. I have faith he'll be back working soon. And, he's been in school, which pays us enough to cover our housing so that is helpful, and he's trying to do a little bit around the house. But otherwise, yeah I've thought about it, and I've made it clear there needs to be a change very soon because there are times he just doesn't do anything, and that's not OK.
I would, assuming that everything else is good. We are still compatible in all of the ways that matter, he's not losing his mind from issues that stem mostly from having too much time on his hands, and he's doing his share at home. It does not need to be a dealbreaker...but it can LEAD to things that are.
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