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After a break up, should you go "no-contact" on your ex? By no contact I mean deleting their number (or perhaps blocking them), messages, voicemails, pictures, blocking them on all social media, getting rid of all gifts from them and basically everything that reminds you of them and never talk to them again. If you do this, should you go no-contact until you get over them or should you just go no-contact forever? Is there really a point with keeping in contact with an ex? I guess every situation is different, right?
Obviously if you have kids together that's different. But let's say you have no other ties to your ex. After you break up with your ex, you will never see them again unless you contact them or randomly see them.
I think it's best not to hang onto old relationships unless that person adds value to your life. I also don't think a romantic relationship can just become a friendship without creating a little distance first. If you end on bad terms, then I think it's definitely best to cut all ties to limit contact and unnecessary drama. Hard to move on if you don't make a clean break.
I believe, its the best idea (given there is no parental duties involved). Going no contact is tough; 9/10 people fail in implementing it the first few months. I have fail in the past, but have gotten it down to a "T" in past recent breakups.
Every woman Ive been in a relationship with, since I was maybe 16 and Im 28 now...Once we broke up we did go no contact anywhere from a few months to a couple of years...
It just happens. But somehow Ive managed to be back in contact and having a friendship with all of them over some time.
All except my last relationship. Its been 6 or 7 months now with no contact.
YES!!!!!!!! I go "No Contact" IMMEDIATELY after a relationship starts dying. Any other way is mental torture for me. I tried NOT doing it this way once, and I felt like I was absolutely DYING inside.
I did end up resuming contact with one guy after like three years (he actually contacted me I think). He had married, and my feelings for him were gone, so I entertained his contact.
IMO , it really depends on several factors. If it was something really bad, like drugs, stealing, cheating , fist fight then YES
but if you sort of fizzle out or just have a typical fight ( non physical ) then maybe take time for both to cool down and see if they apologize or at least want to talk things out.
Many times it ends up being a misunderstanding and by cutting them off you blow a good thing.
I did no contact with my ex, then 6 months later I get a long email about how I don't give a crap about her because I never even bothered to check on her from time to time to ask her how she is doing. Weird. Of course I did not reply to that email.
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