Why are women shown more empathy in a relationship and not men? (dating, single)

[funymann]

Originally Posted by onihC

Maybe this is asked because when a female poster shares a problem she is going through she gets the “cry on my shoulder” responses, it is a man’s fault, etc. An example that comes to mind is when a man complains about her wife not wanting sex. The usual responses he will get is that he should stop complaining and instead romance her, make her feel good, do house chores, take her out, buy her stuff, etc. He has to put lots of effort to get her permission to have sex with her. Now, if things are the other way around (which is rare compared to men but it exists) then the person at fault is the guy as well as he may be cheating, he may be gay, he may be seeing pornography, etc. So in both scenarios, it’s the guy’s fault. There are other topics where it may be seen that way as well.

Good points!!

If a woman would put out more she may get the dishes done.

[Dewdroplet76]

I would say that the issue on CD is that the whining women start threads about specific men and the whining men start threads about the entire female gender.

[NewbiePoster]

Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76

I would say that the issue on CD is that the whining women start threads about specific men and the whining men start threads about the entire female gender.

Truth. But I've also seen people ask guys who say their wife isn't into sex if she has low T, is she on the Pill (decreases libido), is she taking anti-depressants (ditto), etc. They don't always tell him it's his fault. Or they'll tell him to break up with her. It's not a one-way street here on C-D, by my observation, if that's what the OP was talking about.

[onihC]

Could be because threads that talk about how men just want sex, men are losers, men are creeps, men should do this and that, etc. remain open but if a male poster starts a thread about goldiggers or something those are immediately closed and the author of that thread gets banned. There are female posters that generalize, male posters that generalize. Difference is that male posters get in trouble in the forum and pay the consequences a bit harder.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by NewbiePoster

Couldn't have been too burning a question for the OP. He hasn't been back to explain, yet. Traditionally, though, dudes were supposed to suck it up, and didn't express their feelings, except when they were mad. If you want empathy, you have to let people know you have feelings. I'm glad things have loosened up in that respect, and it's ok for men to have a wider ranger of feelings now. I haven't noticed a lack of empathy in real life, but it depends.

Exactly.

Women are typically perceived as more comfortable being outward with a wider range of emotions then men, and there is a lot of psychological research that touches on this, but honestly, I'm assuming this is just a general rant about the unfairness of online forums, and not really a question that begs a reasonable discussion.

[Pauloroberts]

This forum is biased in favour of women. It's the elephant in the room.

[erjunkee]

I think often times b/c we are almost always portrayed as the victims in breakups, whether they be through temporary hookups, basic romantic relationships, or even marriages...

It doesn't help that our society focuses on this obsessively on a daily basis..


Watch any daytime talk show, Lifetime movie network, etc....You get my drift.

I know that all of my exes have had their hearts broken by women in the past. And I'm sure it's true for most men who have dated, as well. So, concerning who deserves sympathy/empathy, it's a two-way street. But who gets it clearly is dictated by our current social practices.

[gonzjas2007]

who is OP

[2mares]

Originally Posted by erjunkee

Watch any daytime talk show, Lifetime movie network, etc....

No thank you.

[erjunkee]

Originally Posted by 2mares

No thank you.

Hah!

I'm obviously not recommending that anyone do this.

I'm just making a point.