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why is this hard to believe? My parents are 57. My dad plays basketball 5 times a week. That's more exercise than most 20 year olds.
I haven't actually asked him how old he is. I don't see him very often because of school, so age is not the first thing we talk about when i do. He has good genes - hardly any white hairs. Let's say he is above 50 for sure.
If you're not having sex when you're 60 i feel bad for you son. Everyone knows people who do it more live longer!
So, you are dating him and sleeping with him and you have no idea how old he is? At first you said he is around 60 - and now you think he is at least 50. He has no gray hair and is in great shape - so how do you know he is over 50 and not, let's say, 40? Or 38? Where did you come up with 60?
So, you are dating him and sleeping with him and you have no idea how old he is? At first you said he is around 60 - and now you think he is at least 50. He has no gray hair and is in great shape - so how do you know he is over 50 and not, let's say, 40? Or 38? Where did you come up with 60?
I know he's not 38 or 40 because I'm not an idiot haha. And I said around 60 - that is having some idea of how old he is isn't it? On top of that, he has a youthful countenance and good genes so it is a bit hard to tell exactly. If you were 60 and dating someone much younger, would you feel comfortable telling them your age? I never asked and figured I would find out eventually anyway, and I was right.
So he is in fact 64. I asked him today.
I know most people of certain age gaps don't have much to talk about, but I am able to talk to him about many things, and it feels quite natural. With some guys I've dated, I really had to strain myself to find things to carry on a conversation, at least in the beginning.
Perhaps I shed my post in too much of a bad light. Would you find it easy to just walk away from someone who you could easily connect with and talk to, found attractive, treated you with tenderness and respect, tried hard to make you happy, offered you emotional support and a stable life, just because of his/her age? Walking out on him feels immature, stupid, and selfish, though I hear what you guys are saying and appreciate the honest remarks.
Would you find it easy to just walk away from someone who you could easily connect with and talk to, found attractive, treated you with tenderness and respect, tried hard to make you happy, offered you emotional support and a
stable life, just because of his/her age? Walking out on him feels immature, stupid, and selfish, though I hear what you guys are saying and appreciate the honest remarks.
You are describing a caretaker, not a life partner. If you hadn't started a sexual relationship with him you wouldn't have this problem now. I think you need to learn how to take care of yourself and your own needs without a man (of any age). It can be done.
Over the winter, I inadvertently found myself getting more involved with a man that has been a friend and mentor to me for the past 3 years. We are now dating but since I am finishing up school and stressed he agreed to somewhat put off a full-blown relationship until I am done. We still see each other every couple weekends. I'm almost 28 and he is around 60.
There are of course pro's and con's to dating older men. He is actually LESS experienced than I am in the bedroom, and while our sex life is sometimes great, other times he has a hard time staying erect or orgasming. This happened the last time I saw him, and it makes me feel really insecure and crummy about myself, which also affects how attractive I find him. In addition, his regret over not having more sexual partners in his earlier life makes me a tad bit angry, since it seems every guy (no matter what age) I date feels this way, and indirectly reflects onto you as a second choice to all the women they could have had. However, I believe/hope that he would be loyal and treat me well.
To add to that, I am experiencing my own quarter-life crisis. I am nearing 28 and am only now finishing up my Bachelor's degree. I have no idea what career I can get once I graduate. I've always imagined myself as single and enjoy the solitary life, though am admittedly closed off from previous heartbreaks. Adding someone into the picture is frightening and foreign. It's hard to give up my freedom.While I have feelings for this guy, I also have an intense desire to run away from him and the rest of my current life.
Advice?
Hi demon,
The fact you feel so repulsed by him you are willing to throw your own life to run away from him is beyond ambivalence. And you mention freedom?
So many contradictions. Idk. Maybe you can get him on Viagra or Cialis or Lavitra or something.
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You want advise, yet you are reluctant to listen, so do what you want. None of us know you, but you seem to want to talk about how wonderful he is even though you are not sure you should be with him. There are no shoulds, so it is really up to you. I know that if you stay with him more than likely you will wind up being his caretaker, and if that is something you can see yourself doing then fine.
Serious daddy issues to be with a man 32 yrs older... I don't care what kind of PC bullshyt you wanna spin on it......... LOL....
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And I said around 60 - that is having some idea of how old he is isn't it? On top of that, he has a youthful countenance and good genes so it is a bit hard to tell exactly. If you were 60 and dating someone much younger, would you feel comfortable telling them your age? I never asked and figured I would find out eventually anyway, and I was right. 
