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Well, you might as well find out sooner than later...some people can be a-holes. He may not be such, really, but obviously, he is not honest. (I see him as sort of passive and not very experienced, possibly changeable, but likely not knowing how to be upfront or maybe stringing you along, wanting to do something else, instead).
It would be good if people would just learn that it is best to be honest. A person will say "I didn't want to hurt their feelings", yet by not being upfront, they will hurt a person more. Why doesn't this change?It's really an excuse to not step up, for how they will feel if they do so, so they just say they "didn't want to hurt" a person.
I will say, let this go and chalk it up to experience. Focus on developing who you are in ways, write in a journal if that appeals to you and learn to be open to cues for when another shows actual, mutual interest.
I am guilty of doing something like this, though not to a tutor and just a classmate. I felt pretty bad afterwards, but I have her on facebook and she seems to be doing well now so she came out of it OK.
I am guilty of doing something like this, though not to a tutor and just a classmate. I felt pretty bad afterwards, but I have her on facebook and she seems to be doing well now so she came out of it OK.
Then, you can answer the OP's question regarding why one would act that way.
i met this guy in College, I tutored him. Slowly we bcame close. Sometimes we'd just sit there and look into each other's eyes. He'd stay late and talk with me after lessons. He even got me a gift for my birthday. So I felt comfortable enough to ask him out. He said yes, then nervously cancelled a week later. Then agreed again. So we went out once and had a great time and great chemistry. When I invited him out again he said yes then cancelled a week later saying "let's go another day" I messaged him and asked what day? He never replied. A few weeks later I saw him outside and he tried to put his hood over his head and hide from me. I pretend I didn't see him. Did I do something wrong? I feel very hurt and confused.
A few explanations
1) Was interested but lost interest
2) Was not interested and just pretended to be
3) Was interested but has another girl in the fold
None the less, its apparent he doesn't want to see you again for a date.
Need to move on.
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