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I'm starting to feel the saying "you're dating the same person. They have different names and they look different, but it's the same person" applies to my current situation-- not just in dating, but friends as well. But how do you attract a different kind of person unless you're a different person? Which means you would need to change yourself drastically... And how do you even change yourself if all you can be is yourself?
It's really all a matter of perspective. Not hard at all. "Changing" anything about yourself does not mean you are no longer being yourself. In a positive light, it means you are growing in personal awareness. How & what you think can have a tremendous impact on both your inner & outer world; it merely requires a conscious effort.. Give time & attention to your desires, and you will see results.
I'm starting to feel the saying "you're dating the same person. They have different names and they look different, but it's the same person" applies to my current situation-- not just in dating, but friends as well. But how do you attract a different kind of person unless you're a different person? Which means you would need to change yourself drastically... And how do you even change yourself if all you can be is yourself?
you become a people person. you quit judging people by their looks/income/whatever, and judge them on the content of their character.
next if you see someone you think you might want to date, then go after them. if they turn you down, so what, you move onto the next person you would like to date.
if you have confidence in yourself and who you are as a person, others will notice that confidence and be attracted to it.
I'm starting to feel the saying "you're dating the same person. They have different names and they look different, but it's the same person" applies to my current situation-- not just in dating, but friends as well. But how do you attract a different kind of person unless you're a different person? Which means you would need to change yourself drastically... And how do you even change yourself if all you can be is yourself?
I've always dated professionals, lawyers, software engineers, etc. But what I really like in my heart is special force Military men. It is not a fetish, it is a desire. A burning desire.
I decided to just go with my heart, wherever it leads me, no regrets. Life is too short to follow a rule or a pattern.
Go after the man you really want, not those who are available. Don't play safe all the time, life is less boring when you take some risks.
I'm starting to feel the saying "you're dating the same person. They have different names and they look different, but it's the same person" applies to my current situation-- not just in dating, but friends as well. But how do you attract a different kind of person unless you're a different person? Which means you would need to change yourself drastically... And how do you even change yourself if all you can be is yourself?
People are always changing. They're always growing in their own direction. They will always have their base (their roots, their family, their friends, hopefully).
That is the process of life. Given that our views become more refined as we age through experience, we attract similar.
Learning to decipher who not to date helps to avoid dating the same person with different names and different faces.
I prefer the method of listening to your feelings, and seeing how the person generally fits into your life while not compromising on what you value most in a relationship. That definitely weeds out 90%
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