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I think there are many variables that factor into this besides the attractiveness of someone although that is a big part of it obviously. I've moved around a lot and had very different experiences everywhere I've lived. In Seattle, I had a very easy time meeting women and dated quite a few. A lot of these I met going to live music and just hanging out at coffee shops, bookstores, etc. Las Vegas and Miami were a mixed bag, I didn't date as much although I did have two LTR both of which ended on sour notes. They both have very transient populations though. At my present location, It's been pretty easy although I attribute it largely to there being slightly more women my age, and the fact that many women my age are not really interested in marriage again and like that I don't have kids. When I joined OKC last fall, I actually had several dozen message ME which I was not expecting. Luckily, one of those I have been with for about seven months now.
It is true. Having grown up in the NE but lived in various countries, miami, and now DC, I find that the women in southern california, where I am here for work, are more fwd and approachable. However, I gravitate to more of the caribbean latino and Italian/Irish types you find in the NE and Miami but is extremely rare in southern california. Therefore, the experiences and relatability is much different. I have to work much harder in the NE and the south where as in California, there is a sense of openness and "you can approach me".
However, and this is a big HOWEVER, there are certain people that are a packaged deal in which they have the looks, the wit, charm, intelligence, and work ethic that manage to find themselves in the right places at the right time. These are the types that can be anywhere and get along with anyone and do well because it's just in their nature. But they strategically tend to stick to places they know they will do well and avoid bad situations- if they do come in to them, you won't hear about it. They have this option due to the above stated character traits- sort of like a trickle down effect and hence the phrase: "packaged deal".
Well it's tough in OC when you want to meet someone nice and genuine when you have so many fake douches but hey I found a nice lady to go out with and another that wants to but................they are not my equals, but they are nice women to meet and chat with.
BTW I am talking women in my age range 40-50.
I think I would do better in Seattle both personally and professionally, but family reasons have me here for now.
but hey I found a nice lady to go out with and another that wants to but................they are not my equals, but they are nice women to meet and chat with.
Hey you are in luck. Hallmark now makes a "you aren't my equal but let's boink" card
The city can certainly affect your dating chances.
I know that in the town I'm currently in, men rarely approach me, but when I go to other cities on vacation or to visit relatives, I always have the opposite experience. Cities have different cultures and demographics from one another that it can hinder or help a certain person when it comes to the opposite sex.
Of course, sometimes our problems can carry over from one city to the next. So it may not actually be the city but rather ourselves that make it difficult to meet someone. It can be tough to acknowledge that.
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