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I am a 40 years old Chinese woman divorced without kids. In my past half life, I always encountered wrong guy including my ex. There is an old Chinese saying: One's character and personality decide one's fate. Is it true? Due to the severe hurts from ex-marriage, I have been closed my heart door to men for years and missed some good opportunities. One month ago, I encouraged myself to register at a social website Twoo and there I met an guy who claimed to be an Englishman self-employed in London, UK. We communicated with email for one month. Suddenly he said that he had a big contract to be executed in Dubai. He seemed to go to Dubai and then I was told that the price of products he wanted to buy was increased. He asked me to help him raise money for him at least GBP 30,000. Then I realized that I might encounter a scammer. With the help from both my close friends and my family, I finally knew this guy was lying to me. And I also found his picture has been already listed on the blacklist of antiscamming by FBI. Two days ago, another scammer who claimed to be an sub-contractor engieer from Texus US contacted with me from the one of the largest professional high-end networking website: Linkedin. This time I become smarter. I googled this guy's email and found he was also on the blacklist of antiscamming. Now I felt so down now. There must be some characteristics or defects on me so that these scammers found me and tried to fool me. According to my colleague, although I was 40 years old, however, they said that I had a young heart even the first scammer from London said so. Too simple-minded and kind-hearted. Is my thought clue wrong now? Why these things with minimal occurance is always happening on me including my bad ex-marriage. I must have done something very bad like killing some innocents in my prelife so that I will suffer so much this lives. I was an anesthesiologist before. However, due to severe hurts I got from ex-marriage, I had to change my career path since 2007 working at foreign companies. I worked for a French medical assistance company as medical escort. I worked at GE Healthcare as clinical specialist. Now I am working for a top 5 US pharmaceutical company as manager. I need comforts, so low and down. Can somebody analyze for me?
I am a 40 years old Chinese woman divorced without kids. In my past half life, I always encountered wrong guy including my ex. There is an old Chinese saying: One's character and personality decide one's fate. Is it true? Due to the severe hurts from ex-marriage, I have been closed my heart door to men for years and missed some good opportunities. One month ago, I encouraged myself to register at a social website Twoo and there I met an guy who claimed to be an Englishman self-employed in London, UK. We communicated with email for one month. Suddenly he said that he had a big contract to be executed in Dubai. He seemed to go to Dubai and then I was told that the price of products he wanted to buy was increased. He asked me to help him raise money for him at least GBP 30,000. Then I realized that I might encounter a scammer. With the help from both my close friends and my family, I finally knew this guy was lying to me. And I also found his picture has been already listed on the blacklist of antiscamming by FBI. Two days ago, another scammer who claimed to be an sub-contractor engieer from Texus US contacted with me from the one of the largest professional high-end networking website: Linkedin. This time I become smarter. I googled this guy's email and found he was also on the blacklist of antiscamming. Now I felt so down now. There must be some characteristics or defects on me so that these scammers found me and tried to fool me. According to my colleague, although I was 40 years old, however, they said that I had a young heart even the first scammer from London said so. Too simple-minded and kind-hearted. Is my thought clue wrong now? Why these things with minimal occurance is always happening on me including my bad ex-marriage. I must have done something very bad like killing some innocents in my prelife so that I will suffer so much this lives. I was an anesthesiologist before. However, due to severe hurts I got from ex-marriage, I had to change my career path since 2007 working at foreign companies. I worked for a French medical assistance company as medical escort. I worked at GE Healthcare as clinical specialist. Now I am working for a top 5 US pharmaceutical company as manager. I need comforts, so low and down. Can somebody analyze for me?
It upsets me that generally smart people like you apparently are have this kind of mindset.
No big bad man or thing is punishing you. You need to think long and hard about why you came to that conclusion. My mother had similar thoughts which I never understood. She died a horrible death and suffered for the last 5+ months of her life in a hospital.
Scammers target more people than just yourself. There are many dishonest people out there. Always wise to be aware of that.
As far as an ex-marriage, I have one of those as well. It ended horribly and what I get in the end was not deserved. So did many others. Things like that happen to good people.
Keep living your life and don't be discouraged due to a few bad breaks. They happen to most people in the course of a lifetime. Keep an open mind to meeting others as there are good people out there.
Best wishes to you.
First, paragraphs. Nobody wants to read a big text lump.
Second, why are you talking to people in foreign countries on a dating site. By your own admission, you're carrying around a lot of baggage that you need to sort out. Get some therapy and deal with it and then worry about dating.
Actually due to past severe hurts that I got from very bad ex-marriage and one relationship before my ex-marriage, also having heard so much unfortunate stories of bad marriage from people around me, I am a little bit fed up with Chinese guys.jThat should be in 2004, after I came back from Toronto and found a job working as an anesthesiologist at affiliated south Hospital to 2nd Millitary Medical University in Guangzhou city near HongKong. I was in poor mentality and often sleepless during the night. I was introduced to a professor of this millitary medical university who had 6 years of oversea working experience in US before being hired by as professor. This guy heard my story from one of my relative. He asked me to hand out with him for dinner at a very good restaraunt trying to pull me out of painful past. He told me that he had a house of his own and I should get married and give birth to a child ASAP. However, I was not friendly to him. We talked for several times. Then I left that hospital to go to Shanghai to work at foreign companies. We lost contact with each other. Yeah, I was not totally ready for new relationship, not even mention the marriage. Recently, with my life and career getting more stabilized, I am trying to look for new feelings. However, Chinese guys like my age around me ,most are married, or even if they divorced with kids they prefer to find those young and pretty girls better to be a virgin in their 20s. I heard that nice foreign guys will focus on inner side and mind communication more instead of age and outlook. That is why one month ago, I am trying my luck on foreign dating website.
hey maggie people really do change over time, just u need some time to cope up and forget the instances and give ur life a new chance so that ur life can become beautiful too like many others. dont even think about ur past life or ur about ex who has made ur life horrible, just think how life gave u another opportunity to make ur life much better and beautiful. I hope u find such good partner in ur life and cherish the moments..
hey there!! I do not have the permision to send u another message directly, it says just one a day, so i will message u or tell u about me through ur mail . if that is not a problem for u..
OP, you need to start working on yourself first before you go out and try to find another SO. start by getting rid of the emotional baggage from previous relationships, and fall in love with yourself. i realize that chinese culture doesnt allow for this easily.
as for the scammers, they target everyone, you are not unique here. and the big red flag is when they start talking about money early in the relationship, especially wanting you to help them raise money for what ever reason. good thinking to head them off at the pass before you got in too deep.
as for you yourself, personally i love asian women, and i enjoy the asian culture as well.
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