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You would rather be ignored, than be told up front that she wasn't interested in you? Personally I think what she did was very commendable, because like you said most people just ghost you if they aren't interested.
What is the world coming to?
When someone ignores me and don't respond it's a lot easier to deal with the rejection versus someone calling you when they get home and texting you which shows interest in knowing me better. Plus her leaving a message on my voice mail saying she had a nice time and hope to talk to me soon. I paid for the ice cream and she offered to buy me pizza so it just felt like a good date.
Was this online dating? If so, I'd assume that she was talking to a few different guys simultaneously with communicating with you, and decided to go with somebody else. I wouldn't even assume that it's somebody she met in the interim, it's more likely that she's been communicating with others at least as long as with you. Pretty common with OLD.
Be happy she was a woman about it. She could have ignored you or played games but she told you, straight up. It was only one date. Move on to the next!
You would rather be ignored? Wouldn't you rather know she isn't interested, so you can move on instead of looking at the phone for however many days until it sinks in her silence IS a rejection? I've had enjoyable dates with guys I really liked talking to and spending time with, but ultimately I just didn't feel any romantic connection with them, so I chose not to see them again.
I don't think what she did was weird at all. She was just being politely honest. I think you are overthinking this and getting way too worked up and invested about it, OP. Calm down and let it go.
Sometimes when a woman tells you that she'd rather be friends with you...she actually means exactly what she said. The ball's in your court on whether you'll be okay with that or not. If you're OK with being friends with her...then be friends with her. If not, then let it go and move on with your life. Simple, in my opinion.
Why are you so worked up over pizza, ice cream and a walk.....damn, you're lucky she wasn't horny and wanted a booty call....you would have been crushed.
When someone ignores me and don't respond it's a lot easier to deal with the rejection versus someone calling you when they get home and texting you which shows interest in knowing me better. Plus her leaving a message on my voice mail saying she had a nice time and hope to talk to me soon. I paid for the ice cream and she offered to buy me pizza so it just felt like a good date.
I understand fear of rejection but I have had people ghost me a lot in the past and that is worse than being rejected up front. I would basically just sit there and wonder what I did wrong, when they could've just told me the truth to begin with.
Bottom line: Ghosting people is wrong and cowardly. Always tell the truth.
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