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Had a first date last Friday which I thought went grest since we seemed to hit it off right away. We met for ice cream and them we walked to the waterfront and talked in front of the water. Then we went to get pizza and took another walk and ended up inside her car. We talked in her for 40 minutes and I didn't make a move bur she still seemed interested. After the date when she arrived home she called me and said she had a nice time on the voice-mail. I returned her call and she answered and we talked briefly and said good night. Then I texted her sunday asking how her weekend was and she asked me the same
Then all of a sudden last night she asked was i still up and I told her yes. So that's when I was going to set up a second date. All of a sudden she said that she needed to tell me something and said she didn't feel a spark on Friday and wanted to be honest with me. She said she stI'll wants to be my friend because I'm cool but she didn't feel a romantic connection.
Stunned because usually when someone is not interested in a second date they ignore you and don't reply back. Anyone else agree this sounds weird the way she did this?
Had a first date last Friday which I thought went grest since we seemed to hit it off right away. We met for ice cream and them we walked to the waterfront and talked in front of the water. Then we went to get pizza and took another walk and ended up inside her car. We talked in her for 40 minutes and I didn't make a move bur she still seemed interested. After the date when she arrived home she called me and said she had a nice time on the voice-mail. I returned her call and she answered and we talked briefly and said good night. Then I texted her sunday asking how her weekend was and she asked me the same
Then all of a sudden last night she asked was i still up and I told her yes. So that's when I was going to set up a second date. All of a sudden she said that she needed to tell me something and said she didn't feel a spark on Friday and wanted to be honest with me. She said she stI'll wants to be my friend because I'm cool but she didn't feel a romantic connection.
Stunned because usually when someone is not interested in a second date they ignore you and don't reply back. Anyone else agree this sounds weird the way she did this?
Well, maybe she's telling the truth. She didn't feel a spark, but likes you as a person and wants to be friends with you. I've felt that way about guys before, it's not out of the ordinary.
If you don't want a friendship with her, not a problem....just tell her you have enough friends and you are looking for a romantic relationship with someone
My guess is that is someone else. Maybe she broke up with him a week ago and now he wants to get back together, but she's keeping you around in case it doesn't work out.
In any case, you don't need this sort of uncertainty. I know it hurts, but try to grow a thick skin and keep looking. Life is too short for games!
Maybe it is not the usual way to express lack of interest in a second date, but it does sound like the mature way. She was up front, and straight with you about it. No excuses, dodges, or ghosting. Sorry it's not going to work out, but at least you know and are not left guessing or wondering.
My guess is that is someone else. Maybe she broke up with him a week ago and now he wants to get back together, but she's keeping you around in case it doesn't work out.
In any case, you don't need this sort of uncertainty. I know it hurts, but try to grow a thick skin and keep looking. Life is too short for games!
That's what I was thinking too. Sounded like she maybe met someone else between saturday and tuesday. Because I felt no vibes that she was not interested on my way home from the date.
Hey, at least she's honest and considerate. She doesn't feel attracted but rather than disappear leaving you wondering why, she tells you kindly so as not to hurt your feelings. I wouldn't feel bad about the way she handled it.
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Nothing at all sounds weird about this, other than an adult ice cream date thing.
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That's what I was thinking too. Sounded like she maybe met someone else between saturday and tuesday. Because I felt no vibes that she was not interested on my way home from the date.
Vibes she is not interested? Generally not how it works. You get vibes they are interested.
Stunned because usually when someone is not interested in a second date they ignore you and don't reply back. Anyone else agree this sounds weird the way she did this?
Ignoring someone is the usual way? That's sad. It sounds like she was hoping that you'd grow on her, but she realized that wasn't happening. She took the high road and was honest with you. It sucks, but you move on. Them's the breaks.
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Sorry it's not going to work out, but at least you know and are not left guessing or wondering.
