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"Sour grapes" logic should be self-explanatory. Lots of people take rejection in a very personal way as well, my guess is it's because they have limited options for type of people they'd wish to have, thus they harass or attempt to shame people who obviously think there's some "red flag" (a popular term on this forum).
Are these types of people so much narcissist that they think just about everyone should like them? That practically everyone they meet or everyone towards whom they show interest should joyfully see it as some kind of great honor/divine sign and thus they aren't allowed to dislike anything about them or have some red flags that the "majesty" doesn't qualify for?
This thing really puzzles me a lot and I'd like to hear other people's opinions. You are free to give (your own) examples if you wish.
Most people take rejection personally, more often than not. Most rejection IS personal. "I don't think YOU, PERSONALLY, are a good fit for this job," "I don't want to go out on a date with YOU, SPECIFICALLY," "I thought your writing wasn't good enough to publish," etc.
Feeling a personal sting of rejection doesn't necessarily mean they act out, have sour grapes, harass others, or are narcissistic.
Most people take rejection personally, more often than not. Most rejection IS personal. "I don't think YOU, PERSONALLY, are a good fit for this job," "I don't want to go out on a date with YOU, SPECIFICALLY," "I thought your writing wasn't good enough to publish," etc.
Feeling a personal sting of rejection doesn't necessarily mean they act out, have sour grapes, harass others, or are narcissistic.
Agreed with this. When someone is rejected, it's due to them personally, for whatever reason.
It's like how some girls want relationships. They meet a guy they like, hang out a bit, and he tells them he's not looking for anything serious. Sometimes it's true. Other times, what the guy leaves out is "with you." I am not looking to get serious "with you."
So, it's natural for rejection to hurt, and understandable that some are more sensitive to it. But not everyone is psychotic about it. Their feelings are just hurt, since they have been told they aren't good enough by someone they had interest it.
Agreed with this. When someone is rejected, it's due to them personally, for whatever reason.
It's like how some girls want relationships. They meet a guy they like, hang out a bit, and he tells them he's not looking for anything serious. Sometimes it's true. Other times, what the guy leaves out is "with you." I am not looking to get serious "with you."
So, it's natural for rejection to hurt, and understandable that some are more sensitive to it. But not everyone is psychotic about it. Their feelings are just hurt, since they have been told they aren't good enough by someone they had interest it.
"Other times, what the guy leaves out is "with you." I am not looking to get serious "with you."
Good point. I'm watching one of my coworkers do this. He's 36, over a divorce, nice, attractive, funny, and makes good money. He really is a good catch(when he is ready) but he's not even close to settling down yet, so he is constantly telling women "not looking for anything serious" and he says he never personalizes it so leaves off the "with you part".
Rejection is personal. I've been rejected for relationships or jobs. I just move on. I may have a fleeting ah man that would of been a good fit type of thought but that's as far as it goes. I don't dwell or stalk the other person or the situation. Ve turned diwn relationships or jobs. It just didn't work out for whatever reason. Move on with life
"Sour grapes" logic should be self-explanatory. Lots of people take rejection in a very personal way as well, my guess is it's because they have limited options for type of people they'd wish to have, thus they harass or attempt to shame people who obviously think there's some "red flag" (a popular term on this forum).
Are these types of people so much narcissist that they think just about everyone should like them? That practically everyone they meet or everyone towards whom they show interest should joyfully see it as some kind of great honor/divine sign and thus they aren't allowed to dislike anything about them or have some red flags that the "majesty" doesn't qualify for?
This thing really puzzles me a lot and I'd like to hear other people's opinions. You are free to give (your own) examples if you wish.
Most people I know move on from being rejected. They bare no harsh feelings. It's usually the really really good looking ones who take to heart when they get rejected because they are so used to people throwing themselves at them, and when they get one single rejection? Oh yeah.. the narcissism shines through like an evil piece of turd set on fire. They get sooo angry!
Rejection is a fact of life. You will face all types: business, social, romantic
You can either learn to handle it in a healthy way or not. If you don't the only person you hurt is yourself.
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I'd venture to say most people get rejected more times than accepted. I know I've been rejected a lot in romance (a lot), most job positions that I applied to (send out 20 resumes... get two interviews and then don't get hired anyway kind of thing), colleges I applied to back in the day, school elections, music performances, you name it... it's part of life.
I wonder if the "everyone wins" attitude that people seem to embrace a lot nowadays (especially with kids) leads to them not being able to cope with rejection later in life. It's pretty much the same thing as losing after all.
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