Would it be ok For me to message him? (women, love, single)
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I work at a gym, he's a member who everyone thinks likes me. Over the time I've known him He's bought me chocolate 3 times, always talks to me, flirts, stares, acts nervous, fidgets, shows off and asks the other staff specifically for me. At times he would brush up against me, get close to me & one time he guided me by the waist but then acted all nervous and quiet even though we were both smiling. He ALWAYS initiates any interaction with me. I've initiated some but it's 99% him. Ome time I was in my office on the phone & I didn't see him but the front desk staff and another remember saw him trying to get my attention outside my office by kicking, jumping waving his arms and according to them he did it for awhile before he gave up. One of the receptionists who him and I are friendly told him that me and her wanted to take him out for drinks for his bday. He loved the idea, got excited, changed it into going to a nice fancy expensive restaurant for dinner where he knows a guy who can get us in. He was super excited & wanted to wear a suit cause he said he looked good in one. We had set it all up but then his uncle died and he had to fly out to california for 2 weeks. When he returned he kept asking me jokingly if I missed him, if the gym was boring without him ect, he even said he couldnt wait to come back bc certain girls at the gym were missing him ( he meant it in a funny way, not condescending) As he was leaving that day he kept joking and asked how the gym was without him here, if it sucked, how the vibe was different, no one to bug me lol I laughed & joked with him but he was acting super nervous like he wanted to tell me something & he just kept babbling. I found out from the trainer who trains him that he wont be in the gym for a week cause he hurt himself.
He friended me on facebook 2 months ago, I was wondering if it would sound too creepy/too forward/look too weird if I sent him a message saying "No superman = no fun" Superman is an on going inside joke between me and him. He loves it when I call him that. But I know girls aren't supposed to make the first move so I don't want to mess this up but I also want to show him I'm interested.
Over-eager puppy syndrome. And btw, you don't need an inside connection to go to a fancy restaurant. Just call and make reservations. If you're sure you're interested, invite him to drinks with that receptionist, so he won't be too self-conscious. It'll be more like a group thing.
If you want to message him while he's away due to the injury, why not drop him a quick message and tell him you heard he'd injured himself so you wanted to drop him a note to tell him you hope he's on the mend.
Honestly. Why attempt an inside joke as an opening volley over messenger? He may not know what you're up to.
So, just say:
Hi! I saw (name of trainer) today and he said you'd be out for the week because you had an injury. We miss you around the gym already! How are you doing?
See? It's that simple.
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So you basically just described a dude that is really into you, but too shy to actually ask you out?
At least from what I've read...
He initiates 99% of the time? No wonder this guy is a wreck. How do you expect him to know whats up unless you show him a little more?
I think it's an awesome idea with that message.
He likes it when you call him that.
You're actually showing him initiation.
It's flirty without being to obvious. (He'll try to dissect it..."Is she just being her friendly self? or is this a hint?)
He'll write back. The trading of messages will start. He'll be braver over the internet.
The rest of these posts sound like they're from women. (No offense)
I'm a 27 year old single man who would be so hyped if I got that message from a girl I liked...who I had to do all the initiating.
Maybe even add in a little sad or winky face. lol, I'm serious.
He wouldn't beg for your attention if he wasn't interested. 99% sure.
This is the guy who's supposedly "done with women," right? Did you heed any of the advice from that thread? Three separate threads over 4 days on the same topic is a bit much.
This is the guy who's supposedly "done with women," right? Did you heed any of the advice from that thread? Three separate threads over 4 days on the same topic is a bit much.
Ahhhhh.....the insecurity of youth.
Here's some advice OP, again, either let him know you are interested or move on. Take a chance. The worst that can happen is that he is not interested. That may sting a bit, but at least you will know and be able to move on.
This is the guy who's supposedly "done with women," right? Did you heed any of the advice from that thread? Three separate threads over 4 days on the same topic is a bit much.
I agree.
One thread to chronicle the ongoing saga of this relationship is probably enough.
One thread to chronicle the ongoing saga of this relationship is probably enough.
Given that it's not even a "relationship," it's more than enough.
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