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I can't understand why anyone would flake on a date before even meeting the person. Staying home on the sofa was more desirable than meeting someone who might have been the right match for you? What's the point of OLD then? Sure, another person might always be coming along, but if you're not having success, maybe you flaked on a good person in favour of your sofa, and the next person coming along is another mismatch.
Agreed. Somebody who has this approach should not be OLD
Bud, it's the attitude that you carried. That just makes my blood boil. I just can't fathom it, sorry.
I think everyone can say that online dating is a lot flakier than real life, so really can't compare the two.
What attitude? That if I don't want to do something I don't do it?
I've found people to be less flaky online, for me personally.. although I could understand how it could go the other way.
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Originally Posted by Liberty2011
I can't understand why anyone would flake on a date before even meeting the person. Staying home on the sofa was more desirable than meeting someone who might have been the right match for you? What's the point of OLD then? Sure, another person might always be coming along, but if you're not having success, maybe you flaked on a good person in favour of your sofa, and the next person coming along is another mismatch.
I received messages every day. I signed up for online dating to meet someone nice, but there were days that I just really didn't feel like going out. Sometimes a night on the couch is all someone needs
Most dates I went on, I'd have to force myself to go. Dating can be fun, meeting new people can be fun... but I don't really like too many people beyond the level of acquaintance.
Regarding flakery, that's why I tried to plan OLD dates for right after work, just a quick drink on the way home. I will admit that once I get home, often enough, I just want to get into comfortable clothes, hang out with my pets, and watch a movie or hockey game. Going out with friends might motivate me, but meeting a stranger, not so much.
It served a secondary purpose, too: It weeded out the workaholic Washing-trons who really didn't have time for a relationship and just wanted to date on the weekends. If a man works so much he can never meet someone during happy hour, he's not my kind of guy.
It served a secondary purpose, too: It weeded out the workaholic Washing-trons who really didn't have time for a relationship and just wanted to date on the weekends. If a man works so much he can never meet someone during happy hour, he's not my kind of guy.
Unless you're curing cancer or saving babies from burning buildings who the F wants to work so much that you can never have a life... I mean really..... work sucks D and that's about it...
I've worked about 6 weekends in a row and I'll never do it voluntarily...
I think some people think or delude themselves into thinking that they are it and that the work world can't go on without them.... they have to be at work or things won't happen.
Last time I checked, they still managed to get the pyramids built and all of the rest of things around us while joe blow checked out with a cold......
Unless you're curing cancer or saving babies from burning buildings who the F wants to work so much that you can never have a life... I mean really..... work sucks D and that's about it...
I've worked about 6 weekends in a row and I'll never do it voluntarily...
I think some people think or delude themselves into thinking that they are it and that the work world can't go on without them.... they have to be at work or things won't happen.
Last time I checked, they still managed to get the pyramids built and all of the rest of things around us while joe blow checked out with a cold......
I never understood selling your soul for another person's gain. There have been plenty of times where I work extra hours (such as now) because I'm saving up for a house, car and marriage papers. Overtime helps, but I still want my life.
It's so easy to work your life away, build a budget around a 55-60 hour work week and still live paycheck to paycheck. I see people do it all the time, seems miserable.
Regarding flakery, that's why I tried to plan OLD dates for right after work, just a quick drink on the way home. I will admit that once I get home, often enough, I just want to get into comfortable clothes, hang out with my pets, and watch a movie or hockey game. Going out with friends might motivate me, but meeting a stranger, not so much.
It served a secondary purpose, too: It weeded out the workaholic Washing-trons who really didn't have time for a relationship and just wanted to date on the weekends. If a man works so much he can never meet someone during happy hour, he's not my kind of guy.
That's an interesting way of looking at things. I don't like doing social activities after work. All I have is around four hours to myself after work, and I really don't want to waste any of it on someone who I don't know well. Also since I don't like my job, I'm usually not in the greatest of moods until Friday. lol So I much prefer to socialize on weekends, but I could make time for someone during the week if I really liked them.
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I can't understand why anyone would flake on a date before even meeting the person. Staying home on the sofa was more desirable than meeting someone who might have been the right match for you? What's the point of OLD then? Sure, another person might always be coming along, but if you're not having success, maybe you flaked on a good person in favour of your sofa, and the next person coming along is another mismatch.
Well I had one or two instances where after I agreed to meet a person, I just had something come over me that said; trouble ahead, stop and turn around. I've had girls do it to me. While it sucks at the time, probably best.
Also you may have avoided the person who would have robbed you blind and/or dumped your body in the Potomac River by not going on a date you didn't see fit to go ahead with.
Well I had one or two instances where after I agreed to meet a person, I just had something come over me that said; trouble ahead, stop and turn around. I've had girls do it to me. While it sucks at the time, probably best.
Also you may have avoided the person who would have robbed you blind and/or dumped your body in the Potomac River by not going on a date you didn't see fit to go ahead with.
I can't understand why anyone would flake on a date before even meeting the person. Staying home on the sofa was more desirable than meeting someone who might have been the right match for you? What's the point of OLD then? Sure, another person might always be coming along, but if you're not having success, maybe you flaked on a good person in favour of your sofa, and the next person coming along is another mismatch.
It's a matter of being unwilling to expend effort, and not that motivated to begin with.
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