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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
It seems that some people on this thread will only talk to attractive people. I find that odd.
I would substitute "good looking" people, or "people they find good looking" for attractive.
Maybe that is just me. But I think one issue on here is some people here use "attractive" and "good looking" as synonyms, when most people realize they're not.
I was attracted to them because of their personality. For many of them, I would never have given them a second glance if just out and about.
To answer the bolded, we just ended up talking and hitting it off. The last woman I mentioned she sat (with her friend) next to me at a bar and we started talking and it clicked. Dated about 9 mos, and we've become good friends.
That's usually how these things happen. You're out and about at fairs, shows, bars, whatever event and you're talking to people (young, old, male, female, whatever) and sometimes something just clicks and there is chemistry.
How can that be? I go out to everything everywhere everyday. A bit of hyperbole, yes, but I go out, Im friendly. Nobody talks to me but these crazy drunks and pipeheads and things wearing their clothes off their hips, but I see lots of better looking people receiving attention and winks, and Im just sitting alone or "the friend" guys are not attracted to.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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How can that be? I go out to everything everywhere everyday. A bit of hyperbole, yes, but I go out, Im friendly. Nobody talks to me but these crazy drunks and pipeheads and things wearing their clothes off their hips, but I see lots of better looking people receiving attention and winks, and Im just sitting alone or "the friend" guys are not attracted to.
Do you talk to them?
She (the woman I mentioned) initiated the convo with me. I was just watching a game, and she asked about a beer there (she was, it turns out, testing out my taste)... I answered correctly it seems!
(Pipeheads?)
But I can't answer your question. I don't know you. Lots of it is about charisma. Lots of good looking people don't have it, and lots of not so good looking people have tons of it.
Personality!!!! I've met a lot of handsome men who were duds. Conceited players whose only interest was bedding as many different partners as they could.
I prefer a less handsome man who has a good personality and knows that a good friendship/relationship requires some consideration and effort on the part of both.
And by personality, he needs to have a great sense of humour, not think too highly of himself yet have self-confidence, integrity and honesty and be a good listener and a good conversationalist.
It seems that some people on this thread will only talk to attractive people. I find that odd.
What? You don't only check out in hot cashiers' lanes? Insist your coworkers only be people who pass muster from a physical symmetry standpoint, because what if you have to talk to someone you consider less than attractive? Call the post office and request that your mail delivery person be reassigned, because he or she is not attractive enough for you to deign to interact with? Require only the most good-looking pediatrician for your kids?
But I can't answer your question. I don't know you. Lots of it is about charisma. Lots of good looking people don't have it, and lots of not so good looking people have tons of it.
Yep. Guys who have not been at a glance to be my particular taste in the looks department have DEFINITELY gained my attention because they're charismatic to the extreme.
I have many times. Last girl I dated had quite a bit extra, and I was mad about her.
And no, I'm not overweight myself. At the gym 6x a week, run 5-10ks bi weekly, and take fitness seriously.
That's pretty interesting. I've never encountered a man (friend, someone I follow on IG, etc.) who's seriously into fitness that didn't want to date someone of equal ilk, and only very few women that wouldn't.
That helps dispel the stereotype that fitness freaks are so shallow and narcissistic that they only want to date people that are on their "level", physically.
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That's pretty interesting. I've never encountered a man (friend, someone I follow on IG, etc.) who's seriously into fitness that didn't want to date someone of equal ilk, and only very few women that wouldn't.
That helps dispel the stereotype that fitness freaks are so shallow and narcissistic that they only want to date people that are on their "level", physically.
Hmm.
She's also into fitness, just overweight. She is a distance swimmer and biker, just 30# or so overweight (I'm guessing, I have no idea what she thinks she is).
Especially as you get older, you meet lots of people that do things like run marathons, do distance bike rides, rock climb, etc but are overweight. Out of shape and overweight aren't synonyms.
I've run into many thin people that look good, but are woefully out of shape.
That's pretty interesting. I've never encountered a man (friend, someone I follow on IG, etc.) who's seriously into fitness that didn't want to date someone of equal ilk, and only very few women that wouldn't.
That helps dispel the stereotype that fitness freaks are so shallow and narcissistic that they only want to date people that are on their "level", physically.
Hmm.
I had a friend (typical nerd guy... a biologist, into comic books, I met him though a computer game, etc) and he married a personal trainer! I lost touch with them, but they actually made a blog about their differences and it was pretty funny to read. I lost touch with them when they moved away.
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