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Ok so I have been in a relationship with this girl for about a year now, we broke up about 3 months ago (mainly due to me being very depressed and unmotivated for a while during the relationship) and kinda started getting back together about a month ago. Not sure if thats relivent but thought I would share anyways.
So she has a couple close guy friends she has known for a long time and never dated. She also has a couple ex boyfriends who she keeps in touch with, goes for lunch with and one has a repair shop that she brings her vehicle in to.
Now I do trust her, I really do and she is open with me about when she gets together with her guy friends and talks about it just the same as if it was a girl friend that she got together with. This doesn't keep me from getting jealous though. I am starting to realize I am a very jealous person as this is the first relationship I have been in that my gf has so many guy friends like this. She even went on a weekend trip with the 2 close guy friends and they all shared a hotel room.
The reason for the post is she just today got together with one of her close guy friends, made him supper at her house and they hung out all night, just the two of them.
I cant help but feel this is odd. I mean I really don't believe anything happened but it bugs me. This is what people do on a date night.
I have talked with her in the past about how it makes me feel uncomfortable how close she is to her guy friends and she says they are just friends and she wont stop hanging out with her friends just because it make me uncomfortable.
I dont know how to approach this or even if I should. Should I mention that this bothers me or am I just being insecure and should I just deal with it myself?
On the flip side has she given you a reason not to trust her? You have to go with your gut. In. Y younger years, all my friends were guys. My now husband trusted me 100%.
Ok so I have been in a relationship with this girl for about a year now, we broke up about 3 months ago (mainly due to me being very depressed and unmotivated for a while during the relationship) and kinda started getting back together about a month ago. Not sure if thats relivent but thought I would share anyways.
So she has a couple close guy friends she has known for a long time and never dated. She also has a couple ex boyfriends who she keeps in touch with, goes for lunch with and one has a repair shop that she brings her vehicle in to.
Now I do trust her, I really do and she is open with me about when she gets together with her guy friends and talks about it just the same as if it was a girl friend that she got together with. This doesn't keep me from getting jealous though. I am starting to realize I am a very jealous person as this is the first relationship I have been in that my gf has so many guy friends like this. She even went on a weekend trip with the 2 close guy friends and they all shared a hotel room.
The reason for the post is she just today got together with one of her close guy friends, made him supper at her house and they hung out all night, just the two of them.
I cant help but feel this is odd. I mean I really don't believe anything happened but it bugs me. This is what people do on a date night.
I have talked with her in the past about how it makes me feel uncomfortable how close she is to her guy friends and she says they are just friends and she wont stop hanging out with her friends just because it make me uncomfortable.
I dont know how to approach this or even if I should. Should I mention that this bothers me or am I just being insecure and should I just deal with it myself?
You can date her, but you need to realize that you will never be able to provide the attention that women like this require. They're one of the side effects of today's society.
Only a man who has close girl friends and ex-es too, could be comfortable with that and most probably either him or her would be aware that at least one of those opposite sex friends has a romantic interest in either him or her. If she doesn't see your point and you have no close girl friends to give her a taste of her own medcine, maybe she'll make a change when those guys will have girlfriends who'll feel just how you do or worse. Unless those men are gay, there can't be such a close relationship that is or will stay purely platonic for long. Why can't she keep them as friends but plan things that include you too? It's the right thing to do when you are in a relationship and respect your partner's feelings,
I think that you should be honest about how you feel with your girlfriend. A mature couple should be capable of establishing healthy boundaries together without confusing them with insecurity.
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